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[Frank Drebin]

I think you're equating spousal approval with actual permission, which really are two different things.

Would you be ok with your wife buying a car without consulting with you first?

[voltz]

I think you're equating spousal approval with actual permission, which really are two different things.

Would you be ok with your wife buying a car without consulting with you first?

If she has her own income, would it matter?

[Frank Drebin]

If she has her own income, would it matter?

Uh, ya? 

Maybe now that she has car payments she can't afford to pay for family vacations, or help to save for retirement.  These are just hypotheticals but I seriously wonder if people that ask these type of questions have ever been in a relationship or if they are in one, how functional it really is. 

[Locke141]

edit: to elaborate, I'm pretty happy that Canada has a new look to our government. Our cabinet is now made up of 50% women, and we've already had our a woman Prime Minister (jennifer, you can laugh at "Prime Minister"...it's kinda like a President, but not...), something that the US hasn't had yet. But hey, this could be the time... go Hilary. To hell with Trump -- what an assclown.

 
Yep, You Canadians are way more progressive with all your having one non wight male prime minister and all. If only we had at least one non white male president.
    

This topic is starting to go in circles.

Still, I'll jump in to say that I used to make a lot more then my wife, and today I make a lot less. Then and now we both share space, limited time resources, and a long list of other elements of our shared life. I'm with yotsuya, CheffoJeffo, opt2not, and a like. To me my wife feeling like our home is ours is more important to me then having everything the way I want it. Luckily she feels the same way and we both tend to put the others feelings before our own. She encouraged me to build my cabs, and our bed room is more to her taste and we are both ok with it.

[voltz]

me - Honey, what do you think about the idea of adding a ceiling mirror to the bedroom?
wife - I don't know, what do you think of the idea of being single again?

 

[JDFan]

me - Honey, what do you think about the idea of adding a ceiling mirror to the bedroom?
wife - I don't know, what do you think of the idea of being single again?

you - so you Love the idea then?   

[dkersten]

On the subject of "Spouse Approval":
Stereotypes come from reality but don't always apply to everyone.
MOST wives would ---steaming pile of meadow muffin--- a brick if their husband brought home an arcade cabinet and planted it in the living room.  This is just reality.
MOST husbands would ---steaming pile of meadow muffin--- a brick if they came home to find their favorite couch replaced with some dainty sofa and the TV removed from the room because it didn't match the décor.  Again, this is reality.
It doesn't mean it is the same for every couple and it doesn't mean that everyone would do either one without consulting the spouse first.  SOME (very few) wives would love to replace that stylish corner chair with a honkin arcade cab.  If you found one, great, you win the internet.

On the subject of this thread:
Sounds more like a bragging session than a discussion about spousal approval. 
I have to admit, it was amusing but wow some people got really offended that their epeens weren't as big as others.  WTF. 

Look, if you are the one getting spousal approval first, congrats, you are in a normal relationship and have a normal woman.  Nothing to be ashamed of and in fact in MOST cases it just means you respect the woman you married and want to make sure she's happy before you make yourself happy.  You probably laugh at the jokes about marriage because you can relate.

If you are the one who doesn't get approval, then celebrate that you found the exception to the rule!  You are the lucky guy whose wife doesn't care!  Maybe she loves games too, or maybe she just knows it isn't worth the argument.  Maybe she gets more out of the relationship in other ways and wants to make sure you are happy.  Any way you cut it, you got what you wanted in your life, so just be happy and quit ragging on those who ask first.  It certainly doesn't subtract from your manhood and I can promise you that you won't change the way those who do get approval from their spouse look at their life.  Just because the term "ball and chain" doesn't refer to you, try to have an open enough mind to realize that more people relate to that term than don't.

[jennifer]

    That's a bit judgey  towards girls, not?  Get over yourself man, and consider yourself lucky you don't have to answer to Jennifer on a daily basis.

[Xiaou2]

    That's a bit judgey  towards girls, not?  Get over yourself man, and consider yourself lucky you don't have to answer to Jennifer on a daily basis.

 I dont know what a Dip Tank is... but I doubt its more important than a stove.

 Seriously,  if your dinner is popcorn and diet soda... I wouldnt plan on living long enough to finish said projects.
Your health is far more valuable than any game.   Take care of it.

[jennifer]

** EDIT **

[jbl77]

HAHA.....this topic is amusing. 

Though, my wife let me put over 6500 pounds of sand in our basement to fill the soundstage for the home theater I was building.   

Maybe that is why she never balked at me wanting to build a cab 

I love my wife    All about cummuication, respect....and when it comes to things like this for us, not half-assing it!

[leapinlew]

If she has her own income, would it matter?

Uh, ya? 

Maybe now that she has car payments she can't afford to pay for family vacations, or help to save for retirement.  These are just hypotheticals but I seriously wonder if people that ask these type of questions have ever been in a relationship or if they are in one, how functional it really is. 

Your situation sounds more financial based than maybe someone else. I mean, would you be bothered if she bought a candy bar without consulting? No? What about a $1,000 candy bar? Yes? What about a $25 candy bar?

See, depending on how you have your finances setup, it may not matter.

In my case, I have my own space, my own money and while we do talk about my arcade stuff, it's not for permission or approval anymore than I approve her perfumes, concealment creams, etc.

[pbj]

You don't approve perfumes?  Good lord, man. 

[jennifer]

    That's a bit judgey  towards girls, not?  Get over yourself man, and consider yourself lucky you don't have to answer to Jennifer on a daily basis.

 I dont know what a Dip Tank is... but I doubt its more important than a stove.

 Seriously,  if your dinner is popcorn and diet soda... I wouldnt plan on living long enough to finish said projects.
Your health is far more valuable than any game.   Take care of it.

  Well, it depends how you look at it I suppose.... A the only space left for a tank was where the stove was, (I do have a little toaster oven now for pizza and things) So don't worry about Jenn dying off any time soon .... As for the tank,  http://www.goldgenie.com/us/chrome-plating-kit.php, although awesome (and got a really good deal on it) was a bit overkill for what I do... But more recently have gotten into tin plating.
 

[RayB]

This was my reaction to the OP's initial post:

[yotsuya]

I think the OP had one too many Molson's that night.  You should never drink and BYOAC.

[dmckean]

I think the OP had one too many Molson's that night.  You should never drink and BYOAC.

Are you talking about drinking and posting on the forum or drinking and literally building your own arcade controls? Because I've done both. 

[yotsuya]

I think the OP had one too many Molson's that night.  You should never drink and BYOAC.

Are you talking about drinking and posting on the forum or drinking and literally building your own arcade controls? Because I've done both. 

Specifically talking about drinking and posting on this forum, because  everytime I see that happen, it only ends in tears. I suppose it would be good to extend that to Arcade building as well. Especially if you're running the power tools.