How to forget someone? Emergency!!!

[newman117]

have you called her sister and/or bestfriend yet??

 
Hahahahaha! Her sister is 10 yrs old... her best friend is her ugly and very fat cousin. I talked to her once, she has a stupid attitude (what girl doesn't?) and she's ugly as hell!

[CheffoJeffo]

she has a stupid attitude (what girl doesn't?)

You are far too young to be so jaded, so do what Frankie says and Relax!

As I have said too many times here -- asking a bunch of arcade nerds for advice about women is kinda bizarre, as evidenced by the assorted bitching about SOs and their thoughts about this hobby.

And stop answering the phone while on dates! Would you answer your phone during a business meeting ? Well, dates are much more intimate than a business meeting.

[newman117]

she has a stupid attitude (what girl doesn't?)

You are far too young to be so jaded, so do what Frankie says and Relax!

As I have said too many times here -- asking a bunch of arcade nerds for advice about women is kinda bizarre, as evidenced by the assorted bitching about SOs and their thoughts about this hobby.

And stop answering the phone while on dates! Would you answer your phone during a business meeting ? Well, dates are much more intimate than a business meeting.

   
Dude... relax. I don't get why you're so frustrated. I WON'T answer the phone on a date again. There. And I wasn't asking advice about women... I was asking for tips on how to FORGET someone.

[RayB]

She's a raging ---smurfette---. You don't forget her. You move on and remind yourself how lucky you are not to be under the thumb of a crazy wacko.

The easiest way to move on? Get some action from another girl.

[CheffoJeffo]

And I wasn't asking advice about women... I was asking for tips on how to FORGET someone.

Sorry ... I was responding to your obvious and desperate need for the former, which would hopefully help you avoid the ridiculous situation that you got yourself into and then chose to unload here.

 

[shateredsoul]

1. get into drug and drinking 

2. hit your head a lot

Traumatic brain injury: Depending on what part of the brain has been affected, the ability to remember tastes, smells, appearances, or sounds may be affected. A head injury that causes swelling in the brain reduces the brain's ability to process incoming information. Additionally, once such incoming information is processed and stored in the appropriate area of the brain, the brain may have difficulty retrieving the information when needed. If you suffer from traumatic injury to the head and forget where you had been or what you had been doing for a few days before the accident, you suffer from retrograde amnesia.

3. get old, long term memory worsens as you age.. the older you are the worse your long term memory

(release of liability clause: please don't actually do these things.. stay young, don't hit your head, and say no to drugs).

[newman117]

1. get into drug and drinking 

2. hit your head a lot

Traumatic brain injury: Depending on what part of the brain has been affected, the ability to remember tastes, smells, appearances, or sounds may be affected. A head injury that causes swelling in the brain reduces the brain's ability to process incoming information. Additionally, once such incoming information is processed and stored in the appropriate area of the brain, the brain may have difficulty retrieving the information when needed. If you suffer from traumatic injury to the head and forget where you had been or what you had been doing for a few days before the accident, you suffer from retrograde amnesia.

3. get old, long term memory worsens as you age.. the older you are the worse your long term memory

(release of liability clause: please don't actually do these things.. stay young, don't hit your head, and say no to drugs).

 
   Nice!!!

[hypernova]

Frankly, both of you need to mature.  Alot.  She's just plain loony.  And you weren't smart enough to realize she was loony the entire time.  From the obscenely mixed signals on the porch to the fruitcake display on the date.

Time and experience is the only thing you can count on to forget this.

[shateredsoul]

wait, is she hot? like super hot? maybe that's why..

[Ond]

And I wasn't asking advice about women... I was asking for tips on how to FORGET someone.

Sorry ... I was responding to your obvious and desperate need for the former, which would hopefully help you avoid the ridiculous situation that you got yourself into and then chose to unload here.

 

   Microfont, it has its uses

wait, is she hot? like super hot? maybe that's why..

actually back in this thread when someone mentioned pics and I wasn't paying attention, I thought they were talking about the girl.  Can we now take this thread in the direction it deserves 

[newman117]

And I wasn't asking advice about women... I was asking for tips on how to FORGET someone.

Sorry ... I was responding to your obvious and desperate need for the former, which would hopefully help you avoid the ridiculous situation that you got yourself into and then chose to unload here.

 

   Microfont, it has its uses

wait, is she hot? like super hot? maybe that's why..

actually back in this thread when someone mentioned pics and I wasn't paying attention, I thought they were talking about the girl.  Can we now take this thread in the direction it deserves 

   
  Yeah she was hot. I think I was just love blind, you know? I didn't listen to anyone else. Seeing all the things she did, wow she really was crazy!

[danny_galaga]

Yeah, but she freaked out because he got a call.
I'll give you that it aint nice to interrupt the date by taking a phone call, but.. she has dated another guy when this guy thought he had a chance, and she freaked out from the phone call and made a scene, which tells me the young lady has problems, or she might just be practicing the art of bee-atching

Now that's a guy who gets it! Thank you man!!  She made one hell of a scene too! There were other people eating and she started screaming and I tried calming but that worked a lil bit till she called her parents and left...

Ok, on a serious note. If that's what she is like, you are definitely better off moving on. Everyone here will tell you that once you  meet another girl, you won't even think about this one. Until then you'll half be thinking 'but she's the one, she's perfect. etc'. I know I did. I was heartbroken for months.

Oh, and I missed that bit about you answering your mobile phone on the date. Are you a doctor on call? NO?

then 

[danny_galaga]

in real life, I don't turn off my phone when I'm dating my gf...

I do put it on silence / vibrate when I'm in a show / movie / dinner / ... etc.
and will check msg promptly afterwards.

If you check your messages during a movie, then

[newman117]

So school was out and May came and she got a boyfriend and call me a crybaby and all but... yeah I cried alot.

You know, a lot of people, both men and women have a hard time admitting this. I commend you for having the courage in doing so, that takes guts 

So graduation day came and I invited her and we were alone in a porch sitting down and we were looking at each others eyes but didn't kiss cause she told me she had a boyfriend and then she left. So later I called her and she said "Why didn't you kiss me?" I was like confused.

Right there, that should have been a sign to hit the eject button. Seriously man, as you grow older you'll find that the women who are the least-crazy are the ones that are keepers. The rest are just drama-filled wastes of time. Every woman you meet is nuts, it's their nature. They're emotional, irrational and  rely on us to be their rock. It's not sexist, it's just social-science.
You just gotta find the girl that is the least crazy out of the bunch, the one who carries the least amount of drama with her. Those are the good ones.

She told me she believed me about me being innocent about the rumors that someone was spreading. Later we stopped talking. Then she called me one day and started talking again and she told me she wasn't going to leave her boyfriend cause she loved him very much. Then she called me one day and asked me if I could go with her and spent the day with her. That day I kissed her and she kissed me even though she had a boyfriend. Yeah!!! What an accomplishment!! Sorry hehe...

What are you thinking man?!  Never "cut another man's grass", that's just going to lead to trouble.  What if her bf is the jealous nut-case type? If this was a girl you wanted to "be with" for a while, do you really want to tell people the story that you "stole" her from another guy, completely clueless that she intended on betraying him? I'm sorry, but that's ---meecrob----bag territory. Don't be so proud of yourself for this, it is definitely not an accomplishment.

anyways that happened one month ago. After i kissed her she told her boyfriend she needed time to think. And I kept talking to her. Until one day I asked her out and she said yes. So we were eating and one friend(girl) called me and she got very jealous and very mad she even started screaming.She left that place. And when I got home I called her and she told me she knew who I was that I was a liar and that she didn't trust me anymore. Anyway that happened right around June 20th. I haven't talked to her in a long time. And she keeps popping in my head and I really want to forget her. Any help? I know this isn't the forum for whiny guys like me so I'll probably get flamed... please guys be supportive... thanks 

- Keep busy like the others say.  That's what men do...we distract ourselves from the drama/emotional responses with some good ol' fashioned hard work. That's old-school. It's therapeutic, as well as productive!
- Surround yourself with stuff that you enjoy, do things you can "complete" (an arcade cabinet is a good one). This'll help keep you concentrated on something, as well as build your self-confidence. Men need more accomplishments to help us feel secure with ourselves. It sounds to me that you could use more confidence if you're still hung-up on this one chick...there are better girls out there...

It's like I always say, "be a shotgun, not a sniper rifle". You know what I mean right?  I shotgun spreads, hitting multiple targets. A sniper rifle concentrates on one target at a time. Date a bunch, get a comparative view of the catalog...don't get hung up on one target!

- Don't completely fill your head worrying about girls/sex. That'll come naturally if you let it. Concentrate on yourself, figure out who you are, what you want. I mean, you just graduated...you have so much time, and so much experiences coming your way. Do you really want to waste all your efforts on chicks?
- Lay off the pot/alcohol...this feels great temporarily, but it doesn't help you in the long run. It'll also alienate you from the world, which is the opposite of what you need...you don't wanna be in that head-space, believe me. Don't lock yourself away, drowning yourself in a bottle, or smoking yourself dumb...get out there! Which brings me to my next point:
- Go on a trip!  Even if it's to another city, or the next state (I'm assuming you're American)...just get away, get a change of scenery, even if it's just for a weekend. Going away really gives you perspective on things, and shows you how small everything really is.

I hope this helps in anyway.
Good luck.

 
Hahahaha her boyfriend wasn't the jealous type... he actually was dumb. I feel sorry for the guy really. Before i went on a date with her, he called her and asked her: "Hey what are you doing tomorrow?" And she told him "Gonna spend the day with Kevin(me)..." And he hung up. 1 week later after the date, she dumped him. I feel pretty sorry for him. Wow just thinking about it... dang this life is hard.

[HanoiBoi]

Newman,

First, be truthful to yourself...is there any truth to the 'rumors' that she heard early on?  Is this girl who called anything more than a friend, or better yet do you have feelings for this friend?  If you do, girls can tell.

If there's not even a smidge of truth to the rumors and the friend is truly only that and you really, really like this girl then you need to work on her.  Don't worry about the right thing or the wrong thing to say to 'get the girl', just be truthful and honest with her.  (Don't do it in a letter, email or text)

Don't think she's as crazy as some people have deduced.  She may have heard other rumors that she's trying to process.  Good chance she's battling with what she hears versus what she feels.  If what she's heard is true, she'll feel like the biggest fool for giving you a shot.  If it's not and she doesn't give you a shot, she could regret it.  My guess is that's her dilemma. 

Put your heart on the line if you think she's worth it.  If you truly believe she's the one, pursue it with truth.  You've got nothing to lose.  If she doesn't want to give it a try, wish her the best and move along.

And yes, I am speaking from experience.  I heard rumors about a girl that I had started dating.  At first I was very standoffish around her and I felt hurt and betrayed.  Eventually, I confronted her with what I had heard, with details, and we discussed it in depth.  We got to the bottom of it and what it came down to was jealous people saying hurtful things.  If we had never talked it out, who knows how things would have turned out.  I've been with that girl for 20 years now.

Best of luck to you.

[newman117]

Newman,

First, be truthful to yourself...is there any truth to the 'rumors' that she heard early on?  Is this girl who called anything more than a friend, or better yet do you have feelings for this friend?  If you do, girls can tell.

If there's not even a smidge of truth to the rumors and the friend is truly only that and you really, really like this girl then you need to work on her.  Don't worry about the right thing or the wrong thing to say to 'get the girl', just be truthful and honest with her.  (Don't do it in a letter, email or text)

Don't think she's as crazy as some people have deduced.  She may have heard other rumors that she's trying to process.  Good chance she's battling with what she hears versus what she feels.  If what she's heard is true, she'll feel like the biggest fool for giving you a shot.  If it's not and she doesn't give you a shot, she could regret it.  My guess is that's her dilemma. 

Put your heart on the line if you think she's worth it.  If you truly believe she's the one, pursue it with truth.  You've got nothing to lose.  If she doesn't want to give it a try, wish her the best and move along.

And yes, I am speaking from experience.  I heard rumors about a girl that I had started dating.  At first I was very standoffish around her and I felt hurt and betrayed.  Eventually, I confronted her with what I had heard, with details, and we discussed it in depth.  We got to the bottom of it and what it came down to was jealous people saying hurtful things.  If we had never talked it out, who knows how things would have turned out.  I've been with that girl for 20 years now.

Best of luck to you.

 
There isn't a single truth to the rumors she heard. And no, the girl who called is my best friend's girlfriend I tried to explain that to her but she didn't listen. She told me that when she heard the rumors, she cried a LOT. And I told her that it was just lies, that there were people that just wanted to hurt. I spent 1 month confronting her and after that she said that she believed me. But after the date, she kinda changed her mind about everything, making quick decisions. I called her after the date and she said to me:"I know who you really are, you're a liar, you're one of the most negative friends I have, you're nothing, etc." I didn't insult her or anything but that's good cause I think at some point she will feel really bad about the things she said. Whoa! Didn't mean to reminisce folks. Anyways I think she found someone who can put up to her craziness cause getting screamed at in a freaking restaurant while other people are eating is not a happy memory.

[Funnel]

Wow this sounds like quite the story. We all experience something like this in life man. Its one of those things you have to move on.

[javeryh]

If you were really in love with her you will never forget her - you will just think about her less as time goes on.

[hypernova]

If you were really in love with her you will never forget her - you will just think about her less as time goes on.

For the short amount of time he was with her, it shouldn't have evolved into the deep feelings of love.

In the future, if the opportunity arises...

hit it then quit it.

[newman117]

Yeah emergency! She said to my friends that she wanted to talk to me about 2 days ago. Then I left my house for a weekend to stay over at my friend's house, then when I came back today my brother tells me she talked to him that she wanted to talk to me, so I talked to her and she cried a lot... she said that she missed me and told me she thought that she would never hear my voice again... and started crying again. She told me that she was having a very hard time without me... anyways she said that she'll call me in about 50 minutes. Thoughts?

[RoyalScam]

Run, but that's only me.  I was once with a girl for a very short time, perhaps three weeks, and went through many of the same games you describe.  I would get random phone calls at all hours demanding where I was, she called my house phone that should've been obvious. After a great loss of sleep and multiple calls at work, I'd had enough. Just by luck, she had called me from a nearby convenience store ,at 3 a.m., and threatened suicide if I didn't come be with her right at this moment.  A local policeman happened to be there and heard her ranting.  He picked up the phone and explained if I didn't come get her, he'd have to take her in for a Baker Act.  In Florida that's a 3 day or so psych evaluation to see if a person is a harm to themselves or others. I told him do what you have to do, and hung up. I never got another call from her again.  About six months later, I saw her with a very stressed looking young man, and she was looking very pregnant. Horrible way to end a relationship, felt even worse for the hang-up, but I just couldn't take it any longer.

Regards,
Scam

[ahofle]

Run

+1
I'm having flashbacks to a prior pyscho GF.

[shateredsoul]

Isn't it funny how when we were in those situations we went along with it for a while.. not realizing how crazy the girl was. RoyalScam seems to have done the wisest thing at that moment.

Seriously Newman, you ask for advice then you keep thinking about it when everyone is giving you the same advice, and even you know what the decision is..

That guy that was described earlier, a young stressed guy walking next to the pregnant psycho girl, That's going to be you

[DaOld Man]

Newman, now is the time to take my advice.
Walk to mirror, slap yourself.
Then go work on your arcade, even if it's just getting the software together or designing the artwork.
And to keep from being distracted, turn your phone off.

[solidteezme]

You tell him Da old man!

You dont want to be that ---Bad words, bad words, whatcha gonna do? Whatcha gonna do when saint censors you?----whipped ---meecrob--- nobody likes because everyone thinks your girlfriend is a psycho!

[solidteezme]

Remember the videos of girlfriends smashing xboxs on youtube? She's gonna be one of them.

[CCM]

If you go back to her, you deserve everything you get.   And I, for one, don't want to see you on here whining the next time she flips out and does something crazy.   

[Edwards80]

After you have slapped yourself, come to your senses and done your cab, if you are desperately craving a bit of knicker, just boot up Double Dragon and watch the intro.

[hyiu]

RUN !!!!!! and don't look back....

you know what to do, and just need confirmation, right ??
So here it is....

avoid her at all costs !!!....
clear now ?

[dafelandry]

I am going through a very similar but more situation... basically i went to france (im from canada) and i brought the misses with me (of 3 and a half years) and we went to a metal festival (Hellfest where at one point "Slash" was playing) and all was fine i treated her like my queen! Louis Vuiton, 4 star hotel, designer shoes blah blah blah and we were happy and such... soo happy that i took her to the Eiffel tower and proposed to her and totally got a yes!!! I was TOO stoked my life was beautiful she was with LITERALLY the girl of my dreams and such... then as we were going home she like pulled a 360... i was being avoided and such and basically we are completely broke up... its hard to eat/sleep and w/e..... i never drink and i find myself (recently including today) hung over constantly and iv probably smoked $800 worth of pot in the last 5 weeks... she calls me everyday and tries to hang out and such but i have no idea of what she wants and such... mind f--kery at its finest!! I really do feel for you and i know it feels like the shittiest thing in the world but STAY BUSY!!!

I baught recording software/hardware, a bass guitar, half stack for guitar.... all this to get my mind off her!!

[newman117]

I know I'm really stupid and all guys but... one question. Does she still feel anything for me? She said to me yesterday after i talked to her for the first time in about a month she started crying and she said: " I really missed you... I thought I could never hear your voice again. I cried almost everyday in July thinking about you... i was in my grandma's FJ Cruiser when I saw you sitting there in front of the school coffee shop, my heart started beating so fast I started to cry.When I listened to the music that reminded me of you I started to cry" So guys... Does she still feel anything for me?

[AtomSmasher]

Does she still feel anything for me?

Irrelevant.

[newman117]

Does she still feel anything for me?

Irrelevant.

 
What do you mean?

[RayB]

Does she still feel anything for me?

Irrelevant.

 
What do you mean?

IT MEANS IT DOESNT MATTER.   
Think about another kind of relationship: THe battered wife. Husband beats her up every week but then apologizes and says he loves her. DOES IT MATTER THAT HE LOVES HER? NO! She should leave and find a better man for herself.

Same thing with you buddy. Don't be pathetic. Go find someone else and don't let her psycho-torture you. Cut her off completely.

[jimmy2x2x]

Burn the bridge, make it impossible to go back!

Tell her there is something really important you need to tell her.

Once you have her attention, make something up that would repulse her

I slept with you mother, I slept with John from the cafe, I am sexually attracted to dogs

or something similar.

[massive88]

This chick is not worth your time and effort.  Its tough to see how crazy some people are when you are close, get some distance and you will see what a good choice it is to leave.

Get out meeting people as soon as your ready is my advice.  The quickest way to get over someone is to realize how much better other people are, and with this chicks antics, it shouldn't take long.

I don't know how old you are (guessing high school), or what it is you do, but go out and do it.  Working at home on a cab is fine, but if you want to forget someone, meet new people.  Brain can only maintain so many relationships with people anyway.

[hypernova]

I slept with you mother, I slept with John from the cafe, I am sexually attracted to dogs

Considering he's still in school, I'd stay away from 2 and 3, else he'd be living with that for the rest of his school life and beyond.

1 probably would be more than acceptable.  Should get you some popular points.  Unless she ugly. 

[AtomSmasher]

I slept with you mother, I slept with John from the cafe, I am sexually attracted to dogs

Considering he's still in school, I'd stay away from 2 and 3, else he'd be living with that for the rest of his school life and beyond.

1 probably would be more than acceptable.  Should get you some popular points.  Unless she ugly. 

Or just say you don't want to be with someone who has trust issues and believes any rumors going around.

[newman117]

I'm going to see her tomorrow guys... I know I'm an idiot for not hearing any of you guys out. You guys have said some very good advice, you're more than just arcade nerds!!! Some of you are very supportive while others hmmm... well I'm going to see her tomorrow, talk to her in person. I really don't know why all of this is happening... It's been going on and off since March and still this kind of stuff happens. I really don't understand why guys... why is this so hard? I STILL know I'm an idiot...

[Gorotsuki]

Easy solution.
Prophylactic + Prostitute.