It's not that hard to hack to a usb mouse.
The 6 pins are +%V, Ground, X+, X-, Y+, Y-.
Grab any mouse to hack. Look up the mouse controller chip on
http://www.datasheetarchive.com/.
Desolder the IR parts from the mouse. Take the 6 pins form the tball and solder them to the appropiate pins on the mouse chip. Plu gin mouse

On the tball, the red wire should be the power. The black wire should be ground. For Then follow the other wires to determine axis pairs. Then it is trial and error on which one is + and minus. When plugged in if you move the tball up but cursor goes down the + ad - need to be swapped.
You are probably not going to find that connector. Best get the 6 pin connector form radioshack and make your own plug.