Well, as far as how to discharge them, the Monitor/Video forum would be a great place to get that info (it's probably scarce in the Main Forum) but I think the main arcadecontrols.com website has plenty of info on that too.
I've never done it personally, but I've read the threads, and what I gather is that there's one capacitor that holds the charge and if you discharge it you're safe from then on. Technically, you have to try really hard and use special electronics and/or carefully planned timing to be able to
partially discharge a capacitor. You can't do it with a simple wire or screwdriver, it's impossible. If you tried to discharge it while it was still plugged in, there would obviously be charge left in it, but I think if you did that the charge left in the cap wouldn't be your biggest problem.

From what I read, it is DEFINITELY NOT something you do without fully reading up on the subject. (I heard a story about someone doing it improperly with a screwdriver, hitting the wrong contacts, and his arm muscles got the full shock - he looked across the room and his screwdriver had been thrown and embedded the metal shaft into a piece of solid wood.

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