Ok, then keep living there, and keep up those 70 hour weeks by all means.

The whole IT industry is like that, not just small segments. There might be a few good places here and there, but in general it is like that. That is why I am not a part of that industry, even though I easily could be.
I may not have a "career" and I may only make about $24K per year. But I'm not a slave, I am still single, but if I wasn't I would actually have time to spend with my spouse and children. And you wouldn't be able to replace that with every house in Massachusetts.
Everyone I know it seems, regardless of income still lives at the very edge of their means, or beyond, and none are satisfied. I now have friends my age who are both lawyers and doctors (well, a research chemist with a doctorate), and they aren't satisfied either. Both of their wives seem very neglected (the lawyer's wife seems to have a bit of a thing for me, probably because I am like the polar opposite of her husband).
Anyway, this is way off topic. I was just suggesting escaping now, while you still can.