...so...based on everything I've seen, tried, tested, and read about in the past 48 hours I decided two things. One, it wasn't worth the time and effort to continue trying to get a fix when it was becoming clear there wasn't one. And two, I'm not happy with a half-way fix that could bomb out and leave me SOL somewhere down the line - this last one came into play when checking out the Maximus Arcade forum and how people are complaining of how its dead.
SO....I went downstairs into my workroom and started thinking. And problem solving. Hell, it's what I do for a living (I'm a science-type consultant) so I figured I could do this.
Two hours later, and I think I've solved it except for one issue - and that's not even something major.
What I'm doing is taking the board that was holding the monitor (see the pics further down in this thread:
http://forum.arcadecontrols.com/index.php?topic=85429.0 ) and flip it vertically so that it rests on that thin board across the cab above where monitor shelf normally sits. I'm adding a 'bar' across that thin piece of wood to hold the bottom of the panel (it forms a V groove) and will be installing two side 'holders' that will hold the top of the panel in place vertically. The hammer in thread holes (whatever you call them) and two bolts should be sufficient to accomplish this. Depending on how sturdy it is, I may or may not add 2 additional anchors.
I did a quick test and this DOES still look cool...however it does eliminate the potential for art appearing in the mirror via the blacklight like I originally planned. While kind of sad, the alternatives (going with a CRT monitor, $300 inverter box thing, etc.) just weren't feasible. The mirror DOES provide some 'smokey-ness' to the picture and it still does look cool...so I'm going to see if there's some way for me to do a 3d bezel using what art I have and have it still work somewhat with the blacklight I spend so much time wiring up. The biggest issue here (again, look in the thread above) is that the art will be between the mirror and the monitor 'board'. So...either I remove the monitor from the board, install the art through the hole, THEN put the monitor on (which will be a PITA) or figure out a way to install he art, then install the monitor board (again, PITA since it has to go in at an angle). However...this is a much smaller issue then what I was facing before. If nothing else, I can reorient the black light (somehow) and put all the art on the other side of the mirror so it appears on there...maybe...with the image coming through.
We'll see. First things first - get this monitor installed correctly over the weekend

Thank you all for all your help with this. I'm annoyed I couldn't get this to work the way I originally envisioned, since it was one of the big decision factors in me getting this cab and spending on the time I have on it vs. something easier to work with...but...thus is life.