Spanking in preschool

[HanoiBoi]

I would do that if I was more confident that Maddy was spanked, or if I suspected something really serious.  My wife and I have both told Maddy a bunch of times that the teachers at her school are not allowed to spank her.  I'm very confident that we will hear about it if she is spanked.

But I honestly don't know if it happened.  I really don't.  And while nothing is more precious than my child, I am cognizant of the fact that this lady's career is very very important to her, and the director's daycare is very important to her.  And the last thing they need is an overreaction, making all the other parents paranoid that something's going on, etc.  For now, this is enough for me.  If I was sure it happened, or I suspected something worse, or if I thought that the director was not taking it seriously, I would go further.  But this is enough for now.

I hear ya schmokes.  I'm not saying grab a torch and dust off your pitchfork.  I'm just suggesting you find out. 

You just said "But I honestly don't know if it happened.  I really don't."  You do still wonder though, right?

I understand that you don't want to hurt the teacher or director.  There are ways to approach people without shaking the hive.  Maybe your circumstances are different, but my wife and I have always made a point to be friendly with our kids' teachers and directors/principals/owners.  Same with the other parents.  We see them more than some family members! 

My suggestion is not to confront and accuse the teacher, but more so to approach with a smile and ask simply, "Hey,  what happened the other day with Maddy?  " 

I do hope that this was either a child's embellishment or a teacher's one time lapse in judgment.

[shmokes]

Agreed.  Also, this teacher's English is pretty rudimentary, so it's not that easy for me to have a casual conversation with her.  The director will do a much better job than me.    Unfortunately when kids in this preschool hit three years old they graduate out of her class and all the classes above hers are taught pretty much exclusively in English.  I understand the necessity for this, but I personally would have much preferred that Maddy be exposed only to Spanish at school.

[ark_ader]

@ ark_ader:

K

I thought you were being OTT about the spanking bit at school.  Lots of children get spanked for being naughty.  The difference between corporal punishment and abuse is a thin line but your child should not be afraid to speak to you.  Encourage it.

The desire to be a better parent than your parent is idealistic, but also can be destructive.  Thus saying the new ways are not necessarily the best way.  I believe the old ways are best.

So good communication with the child and more interaction with your child's school is key.

A good lesson to learn.

[Hoopz]

You're starting to be as cryptic as Ummon was at times.

[ChadTower]

Guess you need to send your daughter to school in a French neighborhood rather than a Spanish one.

[Ginsu Victim]

Ark's school life? (The white kid at the end)

[shmokes]

Lots of children get spanked for being naughty. 
 

Lots of people drive drunk.  Lots of people smoke.  Lots of people voted for George W. Bush.  I don't justify my parenting techniques based on the behavior of lots of ---smurfy--- parents.

[Hoopz]

Lots of children get spanked for being naughty. 
 

Lots of people drive drunk.  Lots of people smoke.  Lots of people voted for George W. Bush.  I don't justify my parenting techniques based on the behavior of lots of ---smurfy--- parents.

Your very first post said that this isn't a PnR discussion.  Keep it that way.

[ChadTower]

Your very first post said that this isn't a PnR discussion.  Keep it that way.

Then get rid of that avatar, Hoopz!   

[Ginsu Victim]

Lots of children get spanked for being naughty.
 

Lots of people drive drunk.  Lots of people smoke.  Lots of people voted for George W. Bush.  I don't justify my parenting techniques based on the behavior of lots of ---smurfy--- parents.

Your very first post said that this isn't a PnR discussion.  Keep it that way.

+1

[shardian]

Lots of children get spanked for being naughty.
 

Lots of people drive drunk.  Lots of people smoke.  Lots of people voted for George W. Bush.  I don't justify my parenting techniques based on the behavior of lots of ---smurfy--- parents.

Your very first post said that this isn't a PnR discussion.  Keep it that way.

+1

+2.

My gut reaction was to reply to your stand-offish response. I refrained though because Schmoke's  own "Rule #1".

[ark_ader]

Ark's school life? (The white kid at the end)

Actually the opposite.



Kids today have it lucky.