I have a new work around if anybody is suffering incompatibility with 3rd party gamepads/devices.
As stated above my Cthulhu boards were not working with the game, the work around is a nice little program Racer S put together.
XBOX 360 Controller Emulator v3.0 I just did exactly what it said, dropped the files in the game.exe folder and when I started the game it must recognize my joystick as 360 controller now and all my buttons including the all important start button work!
The thing about work arounds is it makes the company less prone to fix the issue at hand, but this still doesnt fix the issue for those using an ipac or keywiz.
Also this emulator is only working for 1 of my joysticks at a time, if I plug them both in it only picks up one of them, so I still do not have 2 player.
Update: got both joysticks working in game!
I had to disable all the HID devices other than my 2 controllers, seems my Saitek Gamers keyboard was causing a conflict. Also had to manually add an entry for the 2nd controller in the .ini file for the controller emulator and change its index #. There are no directions on how to do this so you just have to look at the file and see how its laid out and figure it out on your own.