Call her?

[Sephroth57]

if youre a regular here you probably remember my massive thread from like 4 months ago..  Ive been not talking to her cause it makes me think of her, which makes me think about the whole thing, which makes me upset. But i miss her and i want to talk to her ..... what to do?    she called me for a couple weeks but stopped cause everytime she called i basicly said 1 word answers cause i just didnt know what to feel... so yeah

[ChadTower]

The only reason you should call her is if it's to warn her about the brick you just threw. 

[Bones]

That's like a smoker giving up for four months and then buying a pack.

Stand tall man, find another chick. Life is too short to waste.

Errr, that's a NO vote by the way,,,,,

[ChadTower]

He DID find another chick.

[Sephroth57]

shes a feeble replacement really.. ive told her straight up i dont want to go out and she still sticks around, basicly a friend with benefits. but the feeling isnt there at all, i find myself almost in the same pattern as when i was with my ex but its just out of habit and it doesnt feel right

[Bones]

If once you start down the dark path, forever will it dominate your destiny.

Remember what you have learned, save you it will.

[ChadTower]

shes a feeble replacement really.. ive told her straight up i dont want to go out and she still sticks around, basicly a friend with benefits. but the feeling isnt there at all, i find myself almost in the same pattern as when i was with my ex but its just out of habit and it doesnt feel right

So hit it until you find someone you do have a connection with... going back to the one that didn't want you is a dumb way to go.

[missioncontrol]

You should call her..........

Every name in the book 

[Shape D.]

[shmokes]

I agree with Shape D.

[Matthew Anderson]

Shoot, where to start.

Don't just don't.

Oh and you should also probably break up with your current girl. Yeah I know but why?

Figure out who and what you are and what you want out of this crazy thing we call life. 

Then the rest of it can start to fall into place. Of course you could be like the rest of the unwashed mass and be pushed from situation to situation. Anyhow you will do what you will.

Good Luck!

[JoyMonkey]

Yeah, get away  for a couple of months and you'll develop a few different perspectives on everything.
Maybe you should go backpacking around Europe or something. Seems to work for a lot of people.

[Stingray]

Despite the fact that everyone here is telling you not to call her, you probably will anyway. Seen it plenty of times before.

-S

[ChadTower]

Despite the fact that everyone here is telling you not to call her, you probably will anyway. Seen it plenty of times before.

So true.  The fact that he's posted means he's already decided and wants us to talk him out of it.

[Stingray]

Despite the fact that everyone here is telling you not to call her, you probably will anyway. Seen it plenty of times before.

So true.  The fact that he's posted means he's already decided and wants us to talk him out of it.

Or confirm his decision.

-S

[ChadTower]

Don't call her, do this:

http://www.cnn.com/2005/TECH/internet/05/27/yahoo.nudes.ap/index.html

[Sephroth57]

Yeah, get away

[fredster]

Don't call her.

Dump your current "feeble replacement " too.  It's not doing either of you any good.

Once you get the band going, you'll have groupies.

That will be nice. 

[Stingray]

Don't call her, do this:

http://www.cnn.com/2005/TECH/internet/05/27/yahoo.nudes.ap/index.html

HAHAHAHA! Oh man, now that is spiteful!

-S

[abrannan]

I'm gonna give a little different perspective on this issue.  If she died tomorrow, how long would you regret not calling her?  I had an ex-girlfriend, real bad breakup, she wouldn't speak to me, it split our group of friends, etc., etc.  Over time, we talked once or twice more, but never really resolved anything.  She died in '99 from an aneurysm, and I've always regretted not picking up the phone and setting things right with her.


Get back together with her, no.  But do consider calling her to give yourself some closure.  You may find that she's not the ideal person you'd like to remember, or you may find that you've both matured.  You'll never know unless you call.

[Shape D.]

being 21 + playing shows = pirate treasure (booty)

don't waste anymore of your time if she isn't interested it's not worth it.

[Nailz]

Don't call her man... it's hard to be strong, we've all been there.  It happened to me about 5 years ago, bad breakup, I finally decided I had it with women and was going to take a break from them for a while and focus on other things.

Within 2 weeks I met my future wife, women seem to be genuinely attrated to disinterest, and you can't fake it, they know.   

So hang there and find something else to take up more of your time so you can think less about it.

[Stingray]

pirate treasure (booty)

LOL

-S

[GGKoul]

Calling her will only result in more pain for you.  Unless its for rebound sex...

[GGKoul]

Don't call her man... it's hard to be strong, we've all been there.

[RayB]

Don't be pathetic.

[Jabba]

Absolutely Not!!! After what she did to you???

[slayj]

Don't call her man... it's hard to be strong, we've all been there.  It happened to me about 5 years ago, bad breakup, I finally decided I had it with women and was going to take a break from them for a while and focus on other things.

Within 2 weeks I met my future wife, women seem to be genuinely attrated to disinterest, and you can't fake it, they know.   

Same thing happened to me.

Same here......it seems they like a challenge..............and much like that strange smell coming from underneath my bed, you just cant get rid of them. 

[SOAPboy]

If you call her, you arnt a man..

i still to this day think about my ex.. its been a few years.. and ill most likely think about her for another few years.. but if you cave, you lose at life..

[Shape D.]

23 no vs 0 yes.

$10 says he still calls her.

[DrewKaree]

I'm conducting a social experiment for all of you.  I voted "yes" because I believe he wants to call her, but is so afraid of losing her forever that he can't see what's right in front of his face:  you shoulda dumped her a long time ago, and you're just as needy as the broad you're currently doing the tube snake boogie with.

With my lone "yes" vote, he can now call her like he wants to because he's gotten some measure of approval from a faceless stranger who voted the way his heart wants him to lean instead of the logical way of....getting on with your life and letting what's obviously a broken and unrecoverable relationship fade into the past.

For the record, I believe the ONLY answer is no, but I don't really have a control subject

 

[danny_galaga]

don't do it man! read the poll! we are your friends 

[Sephroth57]

well i didnt call her... i freaked out today and im sleeping over my best chick friends house cause she wouldnt let me drive home... so yeah.