Author Topic: Going to kill my wife's boss... (Read 7555 times)

SirPeale · « **on:** March 18, 2005, 01:14:44 pm »

Okay, no, not really. But it's tempting.

Wife had her annual review today.

She calls up, crying her eyes out. I'm barely unable to understand her.

She had her review. Glowing marks all around.

Two hours later, the 'upper' boss calls her in. She's being written up! Why you ask? On a spreadsheet - a single, nearly unimportant spreadsheet - she forgot to put in a single, non-important text entry. Something that could have been *easily* recifiied.

It wasn't so much the writeup I'm mad at (although I think the words 'bullet' and 'brain' did come out of my mouth when I was talking to her) but the things that he said to her. "I'll be damned if I'm going to let some $14 an hour clerk get me in trouble for this (doodie)" and some other choice things that...that I can't even remember, because I'm just so freaking ANGRY.

She asked me if she could give her two weeks notice. At first I was like "Two weeks notice? You should freaking WALK. NOW." But then my more rational side kicked in. We're going to have a baby in less than six weeks. If she walks now, or even quits, we have *no* health coverage. None. As much as it kills me, she can't quit yet. I'm rejoining the work force when she leaves, but we can not be without this coverage.

So why am I writing this? I dunno. To vent, mostly. Advice as well. I suggested to her that she talk with her boss' boss, and up the chain of command until this is taken care of. Because, seriously, it's BOLOGNA. My wife though...she HATES confrontations. And as such, avoids them like the plauge.

mr.Curmudgeon · « **Reply #1 on:** March 18, 2005, 01:24:59 pm »

My G/F just had her position "eliminated" after her boss's boss tried forcing her to quit by constantly intimidating her and outright lying about her performance. We dealt with this for MONTHS and it was absolutely horrible.

She toughed it out, and made them "fire" her. Not after she was able to negotiate a severance package, bonus and vacation pay with her immediate supervisor (who knew how great an employee she was)

The only thing I can say is, have your wife stick with her job. You need the health coverage. HOWEVER, if she's not happy, she should begin looking for another job immediately. If she needs to take a personal day to go to an interview, so be it. She shouldn't mention this job hunt to anyone in the company, or any friends connected to anyone in the company. It is her own best interest.

Quitting gives them the victory...moving on, without notice, gives her the opportunity to tell them to "F#CK OFF!"

mrC

SirPeale · « **Reply #2 on:** March 18, 2005, 01:31:12 pm »

Quote from: mr.Curmudgeon on March 18, 2005, 01:24:59 pm

The only thing I can say is, have your wife stick with her job. You need the health coverage. HOWEVER, if she's not happy, she should begin looking for another job immediately. If she needs to take a personal day to go to an interview, so be it. She shouldn't mention this job hunt to anyone in the company, or any friends connected to anyone in the company. It is her own best interest.

She's six weeks away from giving birth; no one in their right mind would hire her.

She just called. She's calmer now. She was looking at a state program called 'Dr. Dynasaur' that covers kids and pregnant women. We'd be covered for health insurance. So that's a relief. But I still want this guy's head.

Oh, the other thing he said was 'we fire grocery selectors for mispicks, I can certainly fire you!'

(backstory: she works @ C & S Wholesale Grocers, which supplies groceries to 80% of America and quite a bit of .ca as well. The warehouse works get paid according to how accurate they pick cases from the warehouse. A wrong pulled case is called a 'mispick.')

RetroJames · « **Reply #3 on:** March 18, 2005, 01:41:25 pm »

Peale,

Simply put, if the guy actually swore at her and he is the supervisor,

( "I'll be damned if I'm going to let some $14 an hour clerk get me in trouble for this (doodie)" and some other choice things that...)

He has created a hostile work environment. You have many options even if she leaves. Take 5 min and call a labor lawyer. I am not one to run to trial lawyers, but the image I have of your pregnant wife being cussed out by some middle-management (expletive) over an inconsiquential typo ticks me off a tich.

I am not saying to sue him or the company, but the jerk has created options for you and her, she need not take that type of abuse.

1hsc

Crazy Cooter · « **Reply #4 on:** March 18, 2005, 01:49:24 pm »

Have her make a Dr. Appt. for Monday for her "hurting back" and other "stuff".

*ahem* bedrest..

Should be paid maternity leave. She'll have time to look around for another job for when she's cleared to return to work. Give the aholes a two week notice while she isn't even there.

2600 · « **Reply #5 on:** March 18, 2005, 01:50:36 pm »

Peale,
not to sidetrack the issue, but maybe this will put a little smile on the face.

Uh, we have sort of a problem here. Yeah. You apparently didn't put one of the new coversheets on your TPS reports

You see, we're putting the coversheets on all TPS reports. Did you get the memo about this?

Yeah. If you could just go ahead and make sure you do that from now on, that would be great. Uh, I'll go ahead and make sure you get another copy of that memo, ok?

2600, leaves
Saint walks in

Peale, We need to talk about your TPS reports.

Yeah. It's just that we're putting new coversheets on all the TPS reports before they go out now. So I'd really appreciate it if you could just do that. Right. Remember to do that from now on. That'd be great.

Now doesn't that make you feel a little better.

Also, we need to start a kid thread. Enough of us here have little ones or had little ones in the past year or two, I've got a 3 month old.

SirPeale · « **Reply #6 on:** March 18, 2005, 02:00:42 pm »

Quote from: Crazy Cooter on March 18, 2005, 01:49:24 pm

Should be paid maternity leave. She'll have time to look around for another job for when she's cleared to return to work. Give the aholes a two week notice while she isn't even there.

She gets six weeks paid @ 60% (temp disability coverage). By law, she gets twelve weeks of materinity leave.

Mrs Peale · « **Reply #7 on:** March 18, 2005, 03:14:11 pm »

You guys are all so sweet! Isn't my Hubby a dear trying to take out my boss!

Evidently, if I go out on short term disability before the baby is born, I can collect disability from the company that is seperate from the maternity disability that I receive after the birth.

Can't wait to get that Dr.'s note!

Hoagie_one · « **Reply #8 on:** March 18, 2005, 03:18:29 pm »

ChadTower · « **Reply #9 on:** March 18, 2005, 03:19:13 pm »

Forget 187, Size 11.5 steel toe

Shape D. · « **Reply #10 on:** March 18, 2005, 03:41:02 pm »

Quote from: Mrs Peale on March 18, 2005, 03:14:11 pm

You guys are all so sweet! Isn't my Hubby a dear trying to take out my boss!

Evidently, if I go out on short term disability before the baby is born, I can collect disability from the company that is seperate from the maternity disability that I receive after the birth.

Can't wait to get that Dr.'s note!

Hey peale is that really mrs peale or someone else?

SirPeale · « **Reply #11 on:** March 18, 2005, 03:44:09 pm »

Nope, that's really my wife.

What I want to know is who this is:

http://forum.arcadecontrols.com/index.php?action=profile;u=6712

Stingray · « **Reply #12 on:** March 18, 2005, 03:50:22 pm »

Quote from: Peale on March 18, 2005, 03:44:09 pm

Nope, that's really my wife.

What I want to know is who this is:

http://forum.arcadecontrols.com/index.php?action=profile;u=6712

Clone.

-S

Shape D. · « **Reply #13 on:** March 18, 2005, 04:01:26 pm »

Quote from: Peale on March 18, 2005, 03:44:09 pm

Nope, that's really my wife.

What I want to know is who this is:

http://forum.arcadecontrols.com/index.php?action=profile;u=6712

Just checking, you never know somtimes.

[example] http://forum.arcadecontrols.com/index.php?action=profile;u=6712 [/example]
Sounds like some sort of evil David Foley trick. You should have trademarked your name.

Mrs Peale · « **Reply #14 on:** March 18, 2005, 04:03:44 pm »

I also have a few questions...

Honey-I never noticed your avitar before...would you like me to get a bag of Blow Pops on the way home? Also, Dear, why does it say in my sig that I'm a llama?!

Stingray · « **Reply #15 on:** March 18, 2005, 04:09:47 pm »

Quote from: Mrs Peale on March 18, 2005, 04:03:44 pm

I also have a few questions...

Honey-I never noticed your avitar before...would you like me to get a bag of Blow Pops on the way home?

Sounds like an offer you can't refuse.

-S

GGKoul · « **Reply #16 on:** March 18, 2005, 04:10:04 pm »

Quote from: Mrs Peale on March 18, 2005, 04:03:44 pm

I also have a few questions...

Honey-I never noticed your avitar before...would you like me to get a bag of Blow Pops on the way home? Also, Dear, why does it say in my sig that I'm a llama?!

You should have seen his OTHER avatars!!!

ChadTower · « **Reply #17 on:** March 18, 2005, 04:11:37 pm »

Quick, put back the Anjelina Jolie avatar and have her bring home a bag of bananas.

Shape D. · « **Reply #18 on:** March 18, 2005, 04:16:29 pm »

Quote from: Mrs Peale on March 18, 2005, 04:03:44 pm

why does it say in my sig that I'm a llama?!

You can change that in youre profile. I think its under forum profile information. (I cant look at it while i'm posting so I'm not sure what its called.)

cholin · « **Reply #19 on:** March 18, 2005, 04:17:26 pm »

Haha somebody's gettin lucky...bananas...blow pops....go Peale!

ChadTower · « **Reply #20 on:** March 18, 2005, 04:17:35 pm »

It really whips the llama's ass.

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Haha somebody's gettin lucky...bananas...blow pops....go Peale!

I don't know, man... when my wife was pregnant her gag reflex was off the charts. She used to gag just drinking water towards the end.

cholin · « **Reply #21 on:** March 18, 2005, 04:23:47 pm »

Ahh forgot she's pregnant. Good luck Mrs. Peale

Alot of children being born around here lately eh?

RayB · « **Reply #22 on:** March 18, 2005, 04:25:06 pm »

This is typical behaviour. Companies don;t like the idea of paying maternity, and having to guarantee the job spot is there when the woman returns to work, etc... So they try to get them to quit.

nostrebor · « **Reply #23 on:** March 18, 2005, 04:46:22 pm »

Quote from: Mrs Peale on March 18, 2005, 04:03:44 pm

I also have a few questions...

Honey-I never noticed your avitar before...would you like me to get a bag of Blow Pops on the way home? Also, Dear, why does it say in my sig that I'm a llama?!

<kelso voice> BURN!

I too would be ready to remove said Bosses head from his shoulders if he made that statement to my pregnant wife.

BTW: congratulations!

geomartin · « **Reply #24 on:** March 18, 2005, 05:08:02 pm »

I would say she's pretty safe now. Any boss that fired a woman 6 weeks before her due date would be comitting career suicide, not to mention putting the company in serious risk of a lawsuit. That said, one time a boss was bugging my wife. I made an anonymous call to his wife from a pay phone. I told her to tell her husband to quit screwing my wife or I was gonna kick the crap out of him. I immediately hung up. I can just imagine his face when his wife confronted him about that...

Zakk · « **Reply #25 on:** March 18, 2005, 05:14:52 pm »

Mrs P, a few questions if I could be so bold:

Was he right?

Bones · « **Reply #26 on:** March 18, 2005, 05:19:20 pm »

I think pregnant woman are hot. That is all I have to say at this time.

Zakk · « **Reply #27 on:** March 18, 2005, 05:23:42 pm »

Quote from: BrokenBones1 on March 18, 2005, 05:19:20 pm

I think pregnant woman are hot. That is all I have to say at this time.

Hey hey, remember, the hand is still healing...you'll hurt yourself

tommy · « **Reply #28 on:** March 18, 2005, 05:45:00 pm »

Quote from: Mrs Peale on March 18, 2005, 04:03:44 pm

I also have a few questions...

Honey-I never noticed your avitar before...would you like me to get a bag of Blow Pops on the way home? Also, Dear, why does it say in my sig that I'm a llama?!

LMAO mrs^ , sorry to hear about you !@#$%* boss some people love to show there power on people below them(in office terms that is) , if it was me, i would have walked out on and walked over him . but im in a different situation no kids etc so it would have been easy to leave a place where somebody wasent respecting me , hang in there.

SirPeale · « **Reply #29 on:** March 18, 2005, 05:50:12 pm »

Quote from: Zakk on March 18, 2005, 05:14:52 pm

Mrs P, a few questions if I could be so bold:

Was he right? Was it actually an important error that should have been avoided?

Was he overly abusive in manner, or did it just seem that way?[/li]

Is that your hourly wage? If so I think you deserve much more

Have you looked into sick leave? My wife got 2 months off before the birth for "blood pressure issues"

Mrs. Peale says:

I guess in his eyes, it was an important error. See, I am a Union Payroll Specialist. I am responsible for the payment to Unions for pension/dues/Health and Welfare, etc. We have a spreadsheet that we track when payments were sent to the unions, received by the union, check #, yada yada, yada. Well, I forgot to enter the date the check was received in the Union.

Keith (the boss in question) used to be a selector in the warehouse. Thise are his roots in the company. He told me that "No $15.00 an hour clerk will get me in trouble" "We fire selectors for a lot less" and "I will not have someone work for me that cannot follow simple direction.". I felt the comments and a write up were punishments that did not fit the crime.

The funny thing is, I make $13.85/hr (as of today since I had my review before this all happened.) I wanted to say to him "Oh! Did I get ANOTHER raise?! Cause I don't make $15.00!

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Does Mr. P really wear Star Wars jammies?? We've all been wondering since he made that announcement.

Afraid not, I get to see him Full Monty every night! Yum! Maybe he SHOULD start wearing jammies, we probably wouldn't have so many kids!

Shape D. · « **Reply #30 on:** March 18, 2005, 05:53:43 pm »

Ok I'm confused is thats mrs peale using peale's login, or is it peale screwing with us?

SirPeale · « **Reply #31 on:** March 18, 2005, 05:55:46 pm »

Sorry, it was the Mrs., who is too lazy to log in as herself. I just edited the post to make that clear...

saint · « **Reply #32 on:** March 18, 2005, 05:57:28 pm »

I officially approve of Art's wife

Not that my approval was ever needed of course. I just had to go get a breath of fresh air after reading this....

Quote from: Mrs Peale on March 18, 2005, 04:03:44 pm

I also have a few questions...

Honey-I never noticed your avitar before...would you like me to get a bag of Blow Pops on the way home? Also, Dear, why does it say in my sig that I'm a llama?!

saint · « **Reply #33 on:** March 18, 2005, 06:00:14 pm »

Now I need to go scrub my brain.

Quote from: Peale on March 18, 2005, 05:50:12 pm

Afraid not, I get to see him Full Monty every night! Yum! Maybe he SHOULD start wearing jammies, we probably wouldn't have so many kids!

Mrs Peale · « **Reply #34 on:** March 18, 2005, 06:01:10 pm »

Thank You, Saint! You know how to make a 34 week preggo lady feel good!

Shape D. · « **Reply #35 on:** March 18, 2005, 06:02:38 pm »

Quote from: saint on March 18, 2005, 06:00:14 pm

Now I need to go scrub my brain.

Quote from: Peale on March 18, 2005, 05:50:12 pm

Afraid not, I get to see him Full Monty every night! Yum! Maybe he SHOULD start wearing jammies, we probably wouldn't have so many kids!

I don't think it would be as bad if it weren't for this

Quote from: Peale on March 18, 2005, 05:50:12 pm

Yum!

Mrs Peale · « **Reply #36 on:** March 18, 2005, 06:03:49 pm »

Ya'll are jealous!

Daniel270 · « **Reply #37 on:** March 18, 2005, 06:10:40 pm »

I would definitely suggest a nice letter to the Better Business Bureau as well, once the job's been "discontinued"....

Mrs Peale · « **Reply #38 on:** March 18, 2005, 06:14:50 pm »

Quote from: Daniel270 on March 18, 2005, 06:10:40 pm

I would definitely suggest a nice letter to the Better Business Bureau as well, once the job's been "discontinued"....

I would do that, except I work for the 2nd largest food wholesaler in the world. Kinda like an ant fighting an elephant!

Bones · « **Reply #39 on:** March 18, 2005, 06:18:49 pm »

Quote from: Mrs Peale on March 18, 2005, 06:14:50 pm

Quote from: Daniel270 on March 18, 2005, 06:10:40 pm
I would definitely suggest a nice letter to the Better Business Bureau as well, once the job's been "discontinued"....


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Author Topic: Going to kill my wife's boss... (Read 7555 times)

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