When I really started giving this thought was around the time I was signing up to take the bar. My intention all along was to take the New York Bar and move away from Miami after law school (hopefully to Paris, but NY or DC alternatively). But as law school was winding down, and I was going to register for the bar, there was a serious temptation to just take the Florida bar. And I realized that I felt this way largely because the thought of packing up all this stuff I had and moving it was so unpleasant.
I have all this
stuff. And I value it, my stuff. I value it a lot, but why do I value it? The only thing that made 99% of my stuff special is that it was
mine. And here I was, reconsidering whether I should go out and continue pursuing my dreams and gaining rich new experiences from around the country, hopefully around the world, because carrying all this stuff with me would be such a nuisance.
We decided to sell almost everything we owned. My book collection was huge. I had an enormous library of books, among which were about 30-40 Easton Press editions which are extremely nice books with the following characteristics (copied from Wikipedia):
bound in fine genuine leather
22kt gold-stamped spine accents
distinctive raised spine hubs
intricate gilt stamped cover designs
specially milled acid-neutral paper
Smyth-sewn pages
gilded page edges
endsheets of moiré silk
permanent satin ribbon page-marker
They're beautiful. And I loved my books, beautiful and ugly, for their contents. But . . . once I'd read them, I just owned them. That's the only thing I did with them. I owned them. And maybe there is some intrinsic value to ownership, in and of itself. But maybe all the things you have and collect pile up around you and make you unable to even see some of the potentially more valuable things out there.
In hindsight, the legal market is so bad that I probably would have been better off taking the Florida bar, getting a good job in Miami, which would have been much easier, and trying to break into the type of law I really want to practice (international arbitration) a few years down the road when the economy improves. But that's another conversation for another time, lol.
This whole thing makes me think of the brilliant speech from Up IN The Air. Brilliantly written and delivered, I mean. The message of the speech is too extreme probably bad advice in the long term, at least for most people. But there is at least a grain of truth to it.
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