The only decent thing I can think of if the power switch is part of a membrane is to shift your attention to the lid button. On every one of mine, there's a hidden magnet that triggers a small switch. You can easily solder to this switch and extend the switch wherever you want.
Controlling shutdown with this switch is another matter. On my XP installs, the only options are "Do Nothing", "Standby", "Hibernate." Without hacking the registry (or whatever else may be necessary) that leaves you the Hibernate option. I don't like hibernating with Windows since any garbage that crops up becomes cumulative. Microsoft can't get their garbage management and ---steaming pile of meadow muffin--- resistance straight.
Another less elegant option is to trace the power switch leads back through the membrane connections and tap into some trace points beyond that. That might take some careful soldering though.
Alternatively, you can play fast and loose with the power supply itself. Tap into the battery leads or cord leads and cut power right at the source. That has the potential for some pretty nasty problems though.