Don't use Mame32 with a frontend - I would grab the command line version of Mame and point the front end to that. (No use wasting cpu cycles on two front ends) Since you have a slow computer (sorry, no offense) every little bit of processing power should be conserved.
Each front end will be different, but to check what kind of processing power the front end takes, fire it up and look at your task manager (if this is a Windows machine). Depending on your O/S, this can be accessed by pressing Ctrl-Alt-Delete, and then selecting Task Manager. Look at your memory usage and CPU to see what kind of "load" the FE is using.
I would also look at Mame32 and then run Mame command line version, and compare the results...