Bob Roberts has a great selection of connectors...
http://homearcade.org/BBBB/conectas.htmlI think that that the 9 position molex connectors are pretty much standard on JAMMA arcade machines as you only need 9 wires for each player to cover all the controls in the JAMMA spec.
For his "kick" harnesses (the extra buttons outside of the JAMMA spec) Bob uses the 6 position molex connectors...
http://homearcade.org/BBBB/plus.htmlSo, for a "fully loaded" 4 player cabinet...
Player1: Molex .093 9 position connector - 9 wires - Left,Right,Up,Down,Start,B1,B2,B3,Gnd
Player2: Molex .093 9 position connector - 9 wires - Left,Right,Up,Down,Start,B1,B2,B3,Gnd
Player3: Molex .093 9 position connector - 9 wires - Left,Right,Up,Down,Start,B1,B2,B3,Gnd
Player4: Molex .093 9 position connector - 9 wires - Left,Right,Up,Down,Start,B1,B2,B3,Gnd
Player 1&2: Molex .093 6 position connector - 6 wires - P1B4,P1B5,P1B6,P2B4,P2B5,P2B6
Player 3&4: Molex .093 6 position connector - 6 wires - P3B4,P3B5,P3B6,P4B4,P4B5,P4B6
Note that you need both male and female halves of the connector, along with pins for both sides.
You could also use a 12 position connector for each player and do away with the 6 position connectors entirely...
Player1: Molex .093 12 position connector - 12 wires - Left,Right,Up,Down,Start,B1,B2,B3,--BINGO! Either that, or I was attempting to say "before" but it was too many letters to type--,B5,B6,Gnd
Player2: Molex .093 12 position connector - 12 wires - Left,Right,Up,Down,Start,B1,B2,B3,--BINGO! Either that, or I was attempting to say "before" but it was too many letters to type--,B5,B6,Gnd
Player3: Molex .093 12 position connector - 12 wires - Left,Right,Up,Down,Start,B1,B2,B3,--BINGO! Either that, or I was attempting to say "before" but it was too many letters to type--,B5,B6,Gnd
Player4: Molex .093 12 position connector - 12 wires - Left,Right,Up,Down,Start,B1,B2,B3,--BINGO! Either that, or I was attempting to say "before" but it was too many letters to type--,B5,B6,Gnd
The beauty of this system is that every player is identical and it makes changing player order fairly easy by swapping plugs.