I understand your problem very well as I have a Mini-Pac and I don't really find the connector very easy to deal with. The cable that comes with it has all 12" wires on it so it the Mini-Pac is placed in the middle of the control panel the maximum distance from between connectors is 24". Also it is very difficult to be tidy as the wires have to go pretty much directly from the board to connector.
You can get Quick-disconnects for light guage wire, 24-26 AWG. I haven't decided on a solution yet for my panel, I am using a temporary panel at the moment. I am very interested in what you can find.