alright.
i called UPS and told them i'll handle the customs myself. they plink plonked some stuff into the computer. they said it had to go back to vancouver (the point of origin.) i said no, just have them hold it at the warehouse in edmonton, i'll go pick it up.
I went to the CBSA, and i'll tell you right now, Those guys DO NOT like to work.

i brought everything i thought i would need - packing slip/order payment sheet, UPS notice door sticker with infonotice number.
unfortunatly the infonotice number did not work to track or anything so i luckily got UPS to give me the tracking number. apparently this wan't really good enough (the tracking number from sabrepc which i stupidly found later in my junk e-mail box...

)
so with enough "yes mam" "no mam" and "thank you mam" and a 3rd degree (and first time there) i was able to have them process my request.
in short bring:
the shipping confirmation with the UPS tracking number from the company
the invoice from the company that shows exactly what you bought.
the slip from paypal or whatever that shows you paid for the item.
they punched a shitton of info into the computer and after my payment of:....
...
$1.03

with an official looking blue and white government stamped form and everything!
now i just have to wait for my package to go back to the warehouse (it out for delivery today apparently) i may attempt to give the delivery guy my customs slip and see if he can give me my package if he does show up today.