So I finished this but forgot to update the thread.

I ended up doing the DB15 and just making pins 1-4 gears 1-4, and making the pins directly below the grounds for each (the carpet is a little dusty in the pics).

I ran each of the switches to a terminal block, and then ran 2 wires from each....one to the DB15, and jumpered one to the 1-4 buttons of an old Gravis pad. I screwed the pad to the lid of the box, and secured my wires with hot glue, for extra security.
You can see where it runs from the terminal block to my DB15:


and I covered the box with Polymat speaker carpet:

If anybody needs a speaker carpet application tutorial, I found this one both helpful and amusing:
If anybody's interested in making something similar, I made a video that has a few more details about it:
I totally forgot about the corner pieces I was thinking of adding. I'll have to take a look at those and see how that might work.
Oh an for the neutral issue, on my shifter, if I position the stick right in the center between 1st & 2nd or 3rd and 4th, the stick will stay in neutral on its own...though my shifter being a used one could be a factor in that. It helps when setting up buttons in a game.
The shifter works amazing for drifting in Daytona on M2, which is what I made it for....though it would be nice if there were some other 4 speed games outside of M2.