Vaseline probably won't do the trick. If even the tiniest bit gets on the
outside of the connector your hands are going to slip right off. Believe me, it's an awful experience. Rapping your knuckles on some bit of metal because your hands slipped off the connectors for the umpteenth time is going to change your opinion of the engineer who designed the cab.
As for the plastic getting brittle and breaking apart. Despite what people tell you on the internet (WD40? apparently common on old consoles Mkay

) once plastic reaches the point where it becomes brittle that's pretty much it. It's done. If you can get to the plastic
before it becomes brittle then your options begin to open up.
In all honesty though. Molex connectors are ridiculously common. Digikey and Mouser carry a huge selection. I'm sure there are suppliers here that sell the more common shapes used in cabinets.
Short answer, if the Molex connector breaks, just replace it. If the Molex hurts your fingers, replace it with a different type or build some short adapters.