You are getting mixed answers because you are looking in too many places and asking many, many overlapping questions.
You can likely get that card working in DOS Mame, but only AFTER you build a video inversion circuit to be able to use that Nintendo monitor with a normal signal. If you don't make that circuit then everything is going to look like a photo negative.
You won't get that card and monitor combo working with Windows, or with much of anything else.
This is probably the third or 4th time I have repeated this information.
I will also once again repeat my suggestion to sell that monitor, boardset, and Nintendo power supply, as they will bring more than enough to purchase a more compatible display.