I was in an immense state of irritation when I created this thread, so don't mind me if some of my criticisms seemed a bit rash. I'm actually quite good with software, but when you're messing with a dozen of them at once trying to get one going right things can become massively complicated. I made a tad bit of progress last night with a few of them however. Mamewah looks the most promising so far from what I've done. I think the problem lied in the fact that I was using the latest DOS version of MAME (.67) with all the FE's, and as such NONE of them seemed to play games correctly.
I'm guessing that most of the FE's out there aren't quite compatible with the latest MAME releases yet, which fortunately isn't a problem for me since the FE I need is for a cocktail cabinet, which doesn't really need the most up to date version of MAME to run it. I tried a few FE's with MAME .53b and also with MAME32, and did experience much more success in having games run instead of the FE crashing or hanging or what have you. Now currently Mamewah seems to do what I need it to, nice and simple, save for one detail. What I need is a way to toggle between monitor orientations. Even better, if I could have one button rotate the screen 180 degrees, and one to rotate 90 degrees, that'd be PERFECT. Unfortunately from what I've explored in Mamewah so far, I don't see those kind of options. (Update: I did in FACT just find that Advance menu has this option, excellent)
Many of you have recommended GameLauncher or Advance Menu for this problem. The problem with Gamelauncher is that after editing the MAME config file, the glaunch config file, and the mamescan config file to work right, it still just either has a large premade list of roms, many of which I don't have, or if I tell it to scan for roms, it gives me like....two or three random clones which still don't seem to play at all. I tried running Mamescan, but that didn't seem to do anything either.
As for Advance menu, that one finally ended up working with MAME32, but not MAME .53b oddly enough. The only thing is that you can still see the start bar and all..... any tips on how to take the mouse cursor out of view and take out the start bar to make it look less windows-ey? If so this might work out well with a little visual font and color tweaking. I'd post up my config files.....but there's so many from so many different FE's with so many variations that it'd take forever to find one that I actually am currently trying. Thanks for the feedback guys. I just needed that "serenity now" chant....
EDIT: Hmm...actually, in Advance Menu in the MENU you can toggle the screen orientation, but I was really looking for something that you could use -in game-....am I overlooking something?