Drew: There is a distinct difference between someone being a bonehead and shaving their hair on a whim and someone suffering cancer.
I get that.
What you're not getting is that the end result - a woman with no hair - is the same.
You're also not getting that what I'm talking about ISN'T a matter of her looking better or worse with her head shaved. It's that the end result COULD happen to a woman that one of us know, and we'd all be wise to watch our words in the company of our wimmens-folk. They tend to remember things like this.
I also do the same thing, and also have a full head of hair. It has nothing to do with what you or I decide to do. She just looks different. Hideous is going a bit far, especially since, even bald, she looks better than bus-stop girl.