Ass Hats need not apply

[DrewKaree]

Yes, we have.

What do you know about it?  You're just some old fart who hates Eminem and thinks Megadeth is the next Rush, and that no one can judge music better than you. 

Oh, and you love Chad and what you call his "comedy that just won't quit"

And you think Tony Robbins is an ass hat.

[HAWKXP]

Oh great I can see the clown is back...... 

now now girls

[HAWKXP]

Oh great I can see the clown is back...... 

maybe he'll juggle something instead of posting.

thats a tough one ,  i like doing both

[HAWKXP]

I'm willing to bet what attracted Pigeon to the thread was the word ass. 

oh yeeessssssssssss asssssssssssss sounds niceeeeeeeeee

[GGKoul]

Well?

[ChadTower]

Dude, I'm the real deal.

When I really need to put a foot in someone's ass, I take my boot off.

[Zakk]

Yes, we have.

What do you know about it?

[Zakk]

Dude, I'm the real deal.

When I really need to put a foot in someone's ass, I take my boot off.

The real deal?  I see nothing!  Nooooothing!!!!!

[jbox]

I simply can't accept "letting it go" as a healthy way to deal with something that bothers a person.  It's a recipe for making the behavior a continual issue and allows the other person to think what they have done is the right way to deal with people, and may lead to problems with others when it REALLY matters, which may end up costing them far more than possibly some hurt feelings or embarrassment between us.

There is a difference between "letting it go" and "taking it in the butt". You can stop agreeing to help them (time/effort) while still having tea at their house every now and then (contact). I'm happy to help my family do stuff, but the moment they make it all my fault I just walk away that day and let them finish it themselves.

If it makes you unhappy it is not small potatoes in the grand scheme of things, because it is making your relationship unhealthy instead of rewarding. But you can approach it calmly as you would changing a lightbulb (problem -> solution) or you can approach it like MrC does an election (republican -> apocalypse). 

[Bones]

Someday your mother will be dead, and all this will be small potatos, and it will be too late to realize it then. I'd let it go, what does it really matter?

OK... My dad bitching story.

My old man (who never raised me), shows up at hospital right after my accident, its been about 3 hours. I am a smashed mess, really ---fouled up beyond all recognition--- up. I'm in a lot of pain, I have lost the use of both arms and hands, I cant walk, can

[ChadTower]

I did it with the entire paternal side of my family.  They made my childhood hell and laughed while they did it.  If I caught any of them near my own kids I don't know what I would end up doing, but it would probably end up with me in cuffs.  No one is going to treat my kids they way they consistently treated me. 

Once I started to have a family of my own, I told them all to eff off and not come back, because they were like an STD you can only get rid of by amputation.

Once in a while someone from that side of the family tries to reach us.  I don't ever answer, there is no point, I have no interest and I damn sure don't want them near my sons.

[Bones]

Good for you man. Good for you.

[ChadTower]

The main problem with it was that I had to cut EVERYONE from that side of my family off, not just selected relatives.  That meant my younger brother and sister, too, who were small kids at the time.  Wouldn't even recognize them now and they're both in their 20s now.

[whammoed]

Drew,
Glad to hear the talk went well.

[Shape D.]

I do, however, appreciate the advice and the perspective lesson.  It helps to see a different outlook from another party.  The jokes also helped....although I might have to be borrowing Chad's kicking boot and taking a trip to Madison to see a man in a dress playing a gee-tar.

[south pard saddam voice]Hey, relax guy. Take a load off. Trust me.[/south park saddam voice]

If you're looking for a good opportunity I would try the crystal corner bar on Nov. 7th at 9pm. If you're looking for said man dress guy that is.

[DrewKaree]

Drew,
Glad to hear the talk went well.  Based on your posts and the situation it didn't sound like it would go quite so nicely.  Sounds like you have a much better relationship with your mum than her particular actions in this situation would lead us to believe.  Good for you.

I have a tendency to want to fill up a few clips and walk in blasting.  Knowing this never helped until I realized I didn't HAVE to go right in and deal with the problem instantly.  It's also helped to marry a woman who has this exact same flaw and have her ask me for help in dealing with people.  It doesn't SEEM like it would help, but lots of times, while I'm talking with her, I realize a situation where I've done the exact same thing, or done something that most certainly DIDN'T work.

If I'd have called her or went over there that night, it most certainly WOULDN'T have turned out as positively as it did.   As it is, venting my spleen to you guys probably helped get a lot of it out too.

I think you guys are the best therapy group in the universe.  Except for Zakk.  He sucks, and not because he's Canadian.  That's why I ruined his Cancun trip   He'll learn.  Oh, will he learn!