Okay Poonga, that didn't work. When I do this:
mame -ctrlr ctrlr\default.ini shdancer
Then the game runs and the buttons are not correct, and when I exit it gives the fps like normal.
I can post my default.ini ctrlr file if you want but I know there is nothing wrong with it, unless ctrlr ini formats have changed since 0.61...
Nevermind I got it. Thanks