Well, was able to set this in a semi stable manner on the cp tray tonight and get it discharged, here is what I found in the process:
-The anode lead was quite securely attached to the monitor. So I'm sure that is not the problem, After messing with it I can't imagine how it could be knocked lose...

- The wire that didn't look like it was attached that I pointed out above was actually attached. Just not attached to that particular pin, but one that is beneath the red wire next to it as seen in pic in first post.
- The monitor is actually model No. GMK-29FJ I messed that in the original post.
- There is tons of black crap (really filthy fine black dust) that is all over the tube and neck of the monitor. Is this stuff just attracted to the tube or is it it possible that it is the result of something blowing out? The whole inside of the cab was filthy so I am guessing that this stuff is just somehow attracted to the tube when it is powered up and that is the cause...
- One other odd thing that I noticed after putting things back together and powering up a few times. If I power up a second time right after powering off I will hear a ticking noise coming from the pcb, though this noise is not detectable the first time I turn it no cold... That mean anything to anyone?
So it looks like I'm at needing to pull the board out and do a cap kit. Was trying to avoid it, but it looks like there is nothing else to try here now. dabone, I have been trying to figure out what the isolation transformer on the monitor board is, but can't figure it out... do you mean the caps that are near the power in line to the pcb? That area can be seen to the far left where a black wire comes onto the pcb and is clipped along it with a turquoise clip. If you could point out the area you mean on the board that would be much appreciated.
Again just want to say thanks for the help so far it is much appreciated!
