Resistors are non polar. It's just (most) electrolytic capacitors and diode based things (e.g. diodes, transistors) that are polar.
In other words doesn't matter. Easiest is to place it between the frame and the grounding clip, but some put it between the screwdriver and clip.
You can't just use a plain old baby resistor either, you'll fry it AND not disappate the charge (that's why it's best to have no resistor as you can hear the zaps, but some state it could cause damage to the circuitry/tube, but I've never found that to be the case.
A proper resistor value is HIGH wattage (not a low 1/4 watt one) and somewhere in the range of 1 to 10 Million ohms.
Here is more info about discharging tubes:
http://www.eio.com/repairfaq/REPAIR/F_captest.html#CAPTEST_008REMEMBER Discharging the tube
DOES NOT discharge any capacitors on the chassis. Most of them are harmless, but the super large filter one next to the fuses and/or flyback CAN HURT ALMOST AS MUCH AS THE TUBE.
Therefore if you plan on working on the chassis board, be sure this capacitor is discharged as well.. Normally, if the monitor is working, there should be no charge in it. But if the chassis has a blown fuse and you plugged it in to try it and got nothing, there is likely a huge voltage waiting in the capacitor as the blown fuse won't allow it to disappate correctly.
Discharging it is virtually the same as the tube. Just find both terminals (+ and -) and short them and expect a big pop and flash if it has a charge. Wait and do it again.
A lot of people say it's safer to discharge these with a resistor as it's hard on the electrolytic if you don't. Use a large resistor again and let it slowly discharge and test it with a 200 volt meter to see if there is any residual charge left before touching things on the board.