Both responses made sense, first of all, so thank you!
I tried the tab feature last night Rodney, but as I'm using an IPAC, the controls are the same....it didn't make any difference.
Min, I liked your idea, but that would then mess us up on classic two-player games like The Simpsons. Seems as if we can't win, which is about what I expected, so we'll take turns on older games and use different sticks on newer. No big deal, just curious as to whether my thinking about how MAME (tm) was treating them was correct...and apparently I was right!
What I may try to do with the IPAC is set up my own configuration as it relates to my control panel...I doubt that will change anything, but it'd be fun just to see if I could set it up and everything still work.
Thanks guys!