You can solder to the ground in many places on the controller. Don't get hung up if you can't find the "right" spot. Each button has a "signal" side (to which you've already soldered) and a "common" side. You can pick your favorite button and solder to the common side of that button. Test for continuity with a multimeter to ensure you've got a sweet spot.
Then daisy chain that wire through the common connectors on your control panel switches. I have a different ground for each controller, but I believe that you can share grounds between controllers. Read some of the historic threads in this forum to confim that.
Anyone know what happened to
http://members.cox.net/joysticks/? It's one of a long line of controller hacking pages that's disappeared in the last few months. I'd be happy to host the content if we could get it back.
-pmc