Hey dabone, thanks for the tip, I was able to change the resolution in mame32, by selecting the game and going to file/properties while it is selected, I can change the settings for each game...your tip helped me get there and get it up, now I just need to look up the default res for vector games.
I also found quickres in prefetch folder under windows and system32, by removing both of those I have stopped it from starting up. Not sure if there are any other parts hiding somewhere, but this will do the trick for now.
I finally did find out that mawhah is for the dos version of mame, which looking back I should have prob started with that one, but I have this one tweaked quite a bit and it would require a whole new learning curve to switch now.
Can't seem to get windows desktop to 1024 x 768, but I got 800 x 600 working very well and flicker free, I think I might have had some conflicts between the various software drivers I installed trying to fix the issue. This works for me, so now I just need to work on the performance for some of the chd games.
Thanks for your help, I appreciate you pointing me in the right direction.