Sorry, posted earlier...with a dumb question...now its seemingly legit

Here is my set up.
Windows 7 Pro. Running on an i5 with a dedicated Graphics card. 28 inch 16:10 monitor hooked up via VGA for gameplay. New 25 inch 21:9 monitor hooked up via HDMI for displaying monitor artwork.
I have spent all damn day trying to make this work and it simply wont. I am certain I have read and tried every thread not only here....but anything Google, Yahoo, Bing would discover.
My settings in MH for displays and where to look for artwork look right. Mame ini set to 1 monitor..
I feel like I have everything set up correctly...but...and this is prob obvious to everyone else... Win 7 will only assign the HDMI monitor as "Display 1??" I am presuming that for this to work that would need to be set up as "display 2?"
I can set the monitors up correctly in the GPU window just fine...but the Windows 7 OS will not change.
It seems like it "wants" to work when I start up a game as the second monitor flickers a few times...but the extended desktop just stays where its at.
Anyone have any ideas?