Oh and on the dicipline front, I was goofing around with my wife the other day and gave her a swat on the butt. She zipped away down the hall laughing. I turned and said to her, and our impeding daughter, "Remember how that felt now, we give swats in this house! No granola love-ins around here!"
I feel as though a spanking should come only as a last resort, but there is a time and a place. I also like what a friend of mine did. His son, about 3 was having a "hitting" problem. He was repremanded twice in one day for hitting his dad, not when they were playing, but just out of the blue. About an hour later, he hit his mom!
That child's life as he knew it literally came to a stop. His dad gave him a spanking and made him sit in a corner in the kitchen to think about what he did. When the boy was allowed to get back up, his dad took him to his room. To the boy's surprise, EVERYTHING except the bed and the dresser was gone! No toys, no crayons, curtains, nothing.
My friend told his son, "Everything you have was given to you by your Mother and I. Thus, it is ours to take back. We expect you to behave and listen to us when we speak to you etc. When you show us you can behave and show self control, you can have your things back, one at a time." He did give everything back over the course of the next two weeks. His dad is not the kind to holler or yell or say no very often, hence when he does come down like this it really leaves an impression on his children. I agree with his methods and tactics and will most likely use them as well.
Also, once when his boy had a tantrum in a store because he would not buy him some toy, my friend sat down on the floor in front of him and started "crying" and kicking and screaming just like the boy. The boy instantly stopped and got very embarrased and told his dad to stop. The boy now knows how silly it looks to have a fit in public and has been much better in that regard since the incident.
Too funny.