The other thing I am thinking could be a problem is that those cave SH-3 roms aren't officially "working" from what i've read. So how can I allow maximus arcade to show these "non-working" roms in the list of working roms *without showing* all the other non-working mame roms in the list of playable games?
Use SystemPixel's Cave Sh-3 build, which it is a (cv1k & nonag), CLEAN: non-working games removed build for 152.
Works perfect 
EDIT: & what JDFan said if you do not have the 152 set & forget about it if you do not have the cave roms. 
Hey guys, thanks a bunch for the reply! The version of mame i'm using is one I found in the "uploads" area of the EMUMovies.com ftp site. It's titled "Mame & MameUI 0.152 64 bits nonage-cavesh3-dinput-highscore" and the romset i'm using is the 0.152 Roms & CHDs from [romsite name redacted]. Is the "SystemPixel" version suggested different then this build?
The way I updated it was to copy the .exe files over the old mame version. I didn't want to mess up any of the configuration files that already existed there, because all the controls were working great with my X-Arcade control.
This romset I got from [romsite name redacted] didn't have the cave SH-3 roms (or Ketsui, Mushihimesama) in it, so I have attempted to find them scattered around on various websites.
In the Maximus Arcade Preferences, under "Options" and then the "Mame" tab it says "Disable unplayable Roms (Using Mame Data)" which is checked off. If I uncheck this, ten billion unplayable roms appear in the maximus arcade mame area, so thats complete chaos.
I will try what BadMouth suggested…I'm guessing that this is the problem.
I'm not finding a Mame.xml file anywhere on my system… (i just did a search for that file name and nothing came up)
Any chance anyone has already done this to their mame.XML file and wouldn't mind sharing it?
Thanks again for all the help and info, you guys are amazing!
EDIT: Just tried the SystemPixel Mame version, and they don't show up with that in Maximus either… It's probably that XML file that is the culprit…
EDIT AGAIN: Another thing to mention is that the Cave SH-3 games DO show up in the mame rom list if I run the mame exe outside of the maximus frontend… just not inside the frontend