Hi snarfies3,
Check the guide in my signature, it's for usb pendrive installing but the video stuff will apply to any installation.
Well, basically you have TWO different video setups you need to consider:
1.- The video setup in grub's menu. This one applies from boot time to the gasetup screens included. If you are using a CRT PC monitor then you must use the 31 kHz option when booting from the live-cd. This option gets saved and is applied later when you install to harddrive.
2.- The video setup in gasetup menu. This one applies just to the X enviroment: desktop, frontends, and emulators. Here is were the VESA setting is used.
Grub options (the ones used on boot) can be modified later from a submenu in Gasetup named Video Grub or something like that. Of course, you need to have video to access there.
If you have some Linux skills you can boot your system from the live-cd, then edit your hd installation grub's config files to add a longer timeout so you can edit manually edit the options on next boot. Basically removing the "640x480ec" mode from the kernel line should be enough.
If you have the chance to do this, also make sure to remove the "splash" param, this will disable the splash screen. This can be required in many systems as the splash screen crashes the video driver for some reason. BTW, do you reach the point when the splash screen is shown on boot, or you get out of video before? If you can see the splash screen, then press escape as soon as it shows, this will prevent it from crashing.