Hi dogman91,
You can use AdvanceMenu as any other front-end, without custom video settings nor installing the Advance video driver. This way it won't interfere with your video settings.
The process you describe is mostly right, but for the part where you install Powerstrip. It's not required at all with CRT Emudriver and will case you more problems than benefits. Also, GroovyMAME must go in its own folder.
As for the video settings, I recommend you to stay with generic_15 or even arcade_15 presets, rather than NTSC settings, which are quite restrictive.