Additionally, I feel I should mention a few more things...
A Bully, will pick on you if they think you are weak. They can see it in your eyes.. and the
mere way you move. They often pick on the shorter guys, cause they believe small guys are
easier targets. They will react negatively with No provocation on your part at all.
Not only have I experienced this to a lesser extent, but I have buddies with more true
unprovoked conflict stories than you can ever imagine.
As for me, Ive been approached several times at a club by punks, merely cause I look thin,
weak, and non threatening. (When I drink, Im all giggles and smiles)
If it was not for my Confidence and experience, I may have reacted in a way that either
would have made them think I was a pushover, hence a fight... OR, I would have reacted out
of my own Fears, in a non-skilled way... possibly causing me a trip to the hospital... or worse.
Because of my training and secure attitude, they pretty much can see that Im not phased at
all... which scared them. Makes them realize that they better be careful. IF Ive ever had to
make any martial Gesture... most Immediately will back off. The rest.. can and have been
dealt with, by skilled hands.
Sure, you COULD simply TRY to project that same level of attitude... but what happens If
they start something anyways? Also, are you so sure you will hold it together? What
will you be feeling inside? Fear. Terror. Yet, with Good training, you are fearless. Calm.
Clear and unphased. This level of internal achievement is priceless. Its like a heavy weight
lifted off your shoulders.
In my short life so far, here are the situations that have took place after my training...
In which training has helped to keep a positive outcome:
1) Sister needed to move things out from EX bfs. BF, who generally is a mean punk, was scarred
of me, and so were his stronger "buddies" who were standing nearby. (when he found out I was
on my way) Had my sister not had anyone to keep the peace, she may have been assaulted
by this idiot, when trying to get her things.
2) Guy who jumped out of car, wanting to fight me, cause he had a misunderstanding.
Got 2ft away from me, with fists up. Had I not been calm and confident, he would have struck me
for sure. I talked him down, and made him realize his roadly ignorance.
3) Macho artists who couldnt stand a reasonable critique, ( I explained it was not a good idea
to try to teach someone a single Karate move, as they would never be able to master it,
and properly defend themselves with One single lesson) and wanted to take my head off
to prove himself. While you could say that it was partially provoked... I was very nice, as well
as concerned for the person. I got back a vicious response, merely due to problem with Ego
bruising. This situation could happen to anyone, such as mentioning a differing point of view,
rooting for a different team...etc. Theres always someone who can not control their emotions
well.. and will react physically immediately.
4) Guy at the local nightclub touching a girl and pushing her around, even after numerous
attempts to push him away... Then he jumps in my face when I attempt to make sure she
was alright. Had I Not gotten involved.. Maybe all would have been fine. But, maybe she
would have ended up in a ditch somewhere later on. Maybe Mr Woman-Dominator will learn
to control himself a bit better - merely out of fear of the consequences from someone like
me, who wont stand by and let people like him do as they please.
5) Brother was being threatened by some punk kid who he used to hang out with.
I went over and verbally made it known that hed better back off, or he would get
schooled in the Arts.
So, Ive never much had to resort to any real violence... yet, my skills have gave me greater
internal strengths which I never would have had... Had I not developed the martial arts
to an effective level.
I do not regret one single moment of my time training.