First of all I want to thank all of you for your input and especially Malenko and Haruman for their help.
We decided to go with the Madcatz SF 4 Fighter Stick, the $80 one.
The start and pause buttons are front mounted and there is a switch the stick from
l-analog to d-pad to r-analog, possibly giving him some freedom in sports games as well.
For what it's worth these are Capcom licensed, giving me a bit more confidence than plain 'ol madcatz would.
It just seemed the most cost effective solution.
Harumans hacks and the controller I would need to send him would have us around $100 for starters and then we would still need to buy the sticks and buttons.
Not complaining, just trying to be practical.
I will keep you posted as to Kev's satisfaction with the new stick, it should arrive mid next week.
Thanks again for all of your help, it means a lot to us!

ARCADIAC!