I've never tried it, but you should be albe to achieve what you're looking for by switching the grounds. Wire up the buttons to both your I-pac and your DC controllers. Run the ground line from your controls to the common terminal of a two position switch from Radio Shack or suchlike. Run the ground of the I-Pac to one side, and the ground from the DC controllers to the other. When the switch is set to "I-pac" pressing a button will complete a circuit with the I-Pac, and the DC ground will remain disconnected. This should prevent the whole "diode" hookup thing that others recommend.
But like I said, I've never actually tried it. Someone please correct me if I'm making a large error somewhere. I have an Engineering degree, but I got 'C's in the electronics courses. If what I'm trying to describe is unclear, let me know and I'll try to put together a diagram or something.