Alright, I know you've read my other post (thanks for the positive comments), so I'm not even going to try to BS you. You know a LOT more than me already! A few things though:
1. Give soldering a chance. I didn't even do it correctly and it still solved my problem. Really, you have nothing to lose. I saw some of the videos on youtube and it really looks like someone that knows what they're doing could easily bail you out with solder suckers, etc. as long as you didn't go crazy. I'd take a pic or two beforehand to give them an idea of what it looked like originally in case things do go awry.
2. Don't forget about the scientific method. It sounds like you've got several monitors that are pretty similar. Are the parts interchangeable? If so, you could try swapping them out and recording your results on paper. You might notice patterns of what works and doesn't based on the parts being used. Might help you hone in on the problem.
3. Always check your assumptions. You know what they say about assuming... Honestly though, it's probably the only 'real world', practical advice I got in college. Whenever I'm stuck against something that I don't think should be a problem I always start with my assumptions. Usually I find something I've taken for granted that I never would've noticed otherwise.
4. I think my monitor is VERY similar to yours. It's not only a WG7193 that was working when I bought it but not when I got it home (at least properly), but I'm pretty sure it's also been an Ultracade at some point (at least that's what the burn in on the tube tells me)! Feel free to ask me to confirm any results you get on voltage, continuity checks, etc. Also, our wiring might be pretty similar too.
In the end, you'll get it! BTW, I respect that it seems that the journey is just as important as the destination for you. My wife and friends think I'm crazy for how much effort I've put into this damn thing, but I keep trying to explain how much fun it is to learn about things you had no clue of before...
Best wishes and good luck!
Chris