Selling Son's Beloved PlayStation 2 For Punishment!

[J_K_M_A_N]

Do you feel like you hate him for that still?

When I was in high school I tried out for sports.  During the physical they were asking the usual questions.  And they asked the one about chest pain, and I said yes, sometimes I get a little chest pain under a lot of exertion.

So they put me thru all these tests, including some rather invasive ones. They found that my heart was slightly enlarged and not outputing @ peak capacity.  They gave me some medication and recommended I take it easier.

When I was in high school I was *very* active.  I didn't run, but I swam during the summer, and I always biked wherever I had to go (since I had no license or car) and that was upwards of 20 miles day, and in Vermont, you know most of that is hills.

So I wanted to letter in something my senior year.  My parents, worried that I'd die, refused to sign the permission forms so I could participate.  From a parenting POV I can kind of understand, but I'd never stand in the way of my kids wanting something like that.

I was in track, cross country, cross country skiing...and I had to leave them all because they wouldn't sign the damn forms.  Yet I was still exerting a high level of physical activity.

To this day, 14 years later, I resent them for that.  And here's the kicker: I recently had a physical, and told the doctor about what they found when I was a teenager.  He sent me for tests for updated results.  Now, I hadn't taken that medication since I was 18 or so, simply because I felt fine, and was on my own and couldn't afford it.  They found *nothing* wrong.  They speculate it was just part of my growing cycle, and my body outgrew it.

Well, how do you think they would have felt if you would have died going for a letter? They would never be able to live with themselves. To me, I would rather live than get a letter. As a parent, I think I would have done the same. I am kinda surprised that is still bothers you. To me it is just a letter that most people wouldn't remember. I guess I would look at it as they cared for me so much they were worried that I would die. Maybe I am overprotective. In fact, I am sure I am. But that is because it would KILL me if anything major happened to him. Do you have any kids? Just curious.

J_K_M_A_N

[SirPeale]

Do you have any kids? Just curious.

Two boys.  Check out my site.

And no, I wouldn't stand in their way.  Now, like I said, I was exerting myself more with my biking than I was with the sports I was participating in.

From the standpoint of not wanting anything to happen to me, I certainly understand.  But if they were really concerned, they would have stopped me from biking and swimming and running - or at least tried.

[Magnet_Eye]

Do you feel like you hate him for that still? I mean, that was a bit harsh but is it something that you have held onto? I sometimes wonder if I go to far with my son and think, "Will he hate me when we get older?" I mean, I am not to worried about it now because you have to be a parent first and a friend second and kids don't know as much as they think. I once told my dad I was going to stab him. I never would of course but I was mad and I wanted a reaction. If my son said that to me I would either kill him or be afraid of him when I sleep. Now I wish I would have had more time with my dad. I learned WAY more from him than I could have ever realized at the time. So of it I learned when I thought he was being too harsh. (Which I know now, he wasn't).

KidS

J_K_M_A_N

What do you think?   The guy was a bastard and I have tons of anger and hatred towards him. Now he's getting older and having health problems and becoming feeble. I sometimes think I almost feel sorry for him, but at the same time I feel like he had it coming and i could care less. Shouldn't have been so friggin mean. I have a half-brother (his son) who also has resentment towards him. He obviously was much kinder to his "real son" than me, but he was still pretty mean.

So, I would say be careful how you handle your kids if you care about them and how they will feel about you in the future. Tramatic things that happen as a child stick with you your entire life.

My brother and I are close and talk about it often, and he has a daughter now. He is definately much more loving and careful with her than his father was with him. He has seen the beast, and will not be like that to her. Thank God.

So all you parents better be careful on how you deal with your children. It's a sensitive area. Even more so today I think.

[J_K_M_A_N]

Two boys.  Check out my site.

And no, I wouldn't stand in their way.  Now, like I said, I was exerting myself more with my biking than I was with the sports I was participating in.

From the standpoint of not wanting anything to happen to me, I certainly understand.  But if they were really concerned, they would have stopped me from biking and swimming and running - or at least tried.

I understand. Like I said, I am just wondering what is too far. I know my dad made many mistakes when I was growing up. But being a parent now, I don't FULLY blame him. It is the toughest job I have ever had or will have I think. I think you can be somewhat of a friend with your child but not over the edge. My dad believed that you could not be a friend pretty much at all until the child is 18. Unfortunatly for me, he died a few years after I turned 18. We were just becoming friends. So I try to be a friend to my son when it is ok to be one. I also bring the smack down on him when I have to. I try not to go crazy like Magent_Eye's step dad did though. Thanks for being my couch. I have saved enough money by typing here instead of going to a shrink to build another cab!

J_K_M_A_N

[ChadTower]

Trust me, if this kid has the type of priveledged life where having his Ps2 taken away is the trauma of a lifetime... he's had a pretty damn good life and has no reason to complain.

[DrewKaree]

Trust me, if this kid has the type of priveledged life where having his Ps2 taken away is the trauma of a lifetime... he's had a pretty damn good life and has no reason to complain.

Can I get a witness from the congregation?!?!?  Amen to that, brother!

[J_K_M_A_N]

Trust me, if this kid has the type of priveledged life where having his Ps2 taken away is the trauma of a lifetime... he's had a pretty damn good life and has no reason to complain.

Can I get a witness from the congregation?!?!?  Amen to that, brother!

I completly agree. I would also auction off beatings so people could bid to kick the crap out of him. (Just kidding of course but I might do a little butt kickin myself.) I would guess by his actions and how he reacted to the questioning that he doesn't have to answer to a whole lot around the house. Hopefully this will help a little.

J_K_M_A_N

[ChadTower]

It sounds to me like the kid has sprung up a foot in height, likely 50lb of weight, and his parents are having a bit of trouble controlling him and his newfound size.  That's kind of common in boys.  He's going to need a strong male figure to keep him in line, physically if necessary, until he reconciles what has happened to him and how it has changed his place in the world.

[DrewKaree]

I bet he's not a stepchild, nor does he have red hair!

[Magnet_Eye]

I bet he's not a stepchild, nor does he have red hair!

I am and do, so watch it buddy!