I don't think the guy is being unreasonable - look at it from his perspective. This may sound unpopular, but the guy is correct. If I bid on something that had not been cancelled, and I won, and then I used the info to pay the winner, I would expect to receive the goodies. I have also bought enough stuff on ebay to get very suspicious when I recieve an email from the seller that doesn't say something like, "Thanks for your purchase." or "Your item has been shipped."
Business is business - I don't get on ebay to make friends. Obviously I'm not saying Peale was acting 'suspicious', but you see my general point, yes?