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the story, of the worst time in my life
shmokes:
There's a lot of truth to that stuff, I think. Becoming unavailable is probably both your both the best way of getting her back (if that's possible) AND probably the best way of getting over her if ya'll just aren't meant to be. I think you should take his advice.
edit: except the part about the skulls. chicks don't dig them, and in fact wonder why in hell guys dig them so much. ;)
GGKoul:
Hey,
Sephroth57:
yeah sitting around all day is really killing me it just gives me more time to mill over everything and feel like crap. tomorrow me and my friend are getting a gym membership im gonna start working out.. and i think im goign to start playing piano soon and take lessons..
Apollo:
Chicks dig scars not skulls.
Don't call her.
When she calls you and wants to do something, at least once a week tell you're busy ( make up something that you have to do instead of seeing her ).
Don't do so much for her
Start a rumour that you are seeing someone really hot from the next town over from yours ( you met via email but have met in person and had great sex ).
Start a rumour that anyone she dates has a sexual disease or used to be a woman or listens to Ashley Spears ( anything will do )
Make sure she never finds out any of this stuff and if by some miracle you end up with her don't think sharing this stuff will bring you closer. She's more likely to dump your conniving game playing ass.
Basically if you carry on the way you are she is history dude, seriously. You have to have a major change in tactics.
DrewKaree:
I've heard you speak about this before.
Ask anyone who's been married for a while - you each make sacrifices if you're going to be married for a while.
The difference between that, and what you're speaking of is this (and again, ask...you'll see I'm right): You're TRYING to change things and DO something to endear her to you. If you guys are compatible, you don't have to TRY changing for that person, it happens unconsciously, and isn't something you have to DO, it's something that BECOMES part of you.
Making a conscious effort to change yourself to suit someone else's idea of what they want in a significant other is only a guarantee that one of you will become unhappy, either that you resent the changes forced upon you eventually, or that the other person finds other things you need to change in order for them to be happy, or else you do some of the things that they dislike (NO MATTER HOW SLIGHT THEY SEEM TO BE, OR IF YOU DON'T NOTICE/REALIZE IT), and they hold it against you.
Her wishing to "hang out, be friends, whatever" is simply trying to let you down easy, because she wants to alleviate the guilt of breaking up with you by offering you mythical things that will slowly subside over time.
For some reason, you're willing to do things and accept things that she does in an effort to obtain from her feelings she simply doesn't share or wish to reciprocate.
The harsh reality is - you've been dumped.
The harsher reality is - you are only serving to drive her further away, respect you less, and solidify her belief that breaking up with you is the right thing to do by continuing to hold out hope that you two will be able to work it out and get back together.
Continuing to fester on this is a recipe for disaster. You've GOT to get out and DO something, make your life busy like she's trying to do. In time, you'll look back and realize you've gotten over her. You're the only person who can make yourself get up off the couch, though.
Buck up little camper :)