That said, my immediate family has ALWAYS been absolutely #1 in my world. They are first and foremost and I'll do anything for them. 30 years married and 4 kids that are still an interactive part of our life (and even 2 grandkids!).
- There is a huge difference, between having Narcissistic Tendencies, and having Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Also, NPD isnt a static thing. It can have many differing Degrees of Severity. Some with NPD are pretty harmless. While others, like my father... are a true Danger to Society (Psychopathic Spectrum).
- My father, for example.. didnt give two squirts of Piss, about his Family. In fact, he constantly threatened his own mother, to either send him more money (so that he could gamble + drink it away), or that he would hurt himself, or hurt others... and he did this on a regular basis, Despite her being extremely Phobic (easily terrorized into submission), and.. her being in massive Debt, due to continually giving into his terroristic ways.
- Now my mother... she tried to maintain the appearance of caring. Not for me.. but to look good in other peoples eyes. If I didnt do well.. it basically caused a Narcissistic Injury to her... and so I was dealt constant narcissistic abuse from her, as a result.
- My Brother became the "Golden Child" that could do no wrong... UNTIL.. I moved out. From that momemnt on.. she chose him to become the new "Whipping Boy", and to offload her Rage, Judgements, and Manipulations.. onto him. This was a complete Surprise to my brother... and when I returned to the state, my Brother Hated me for moving. Not because he missed me, nor cared about me... but because of how my mother Changed in treating him. Insane, Ehh?! Like most Narcissist.. they are not well grounded in Logic and Rational thought.. and they cant accept Reality. So he refused to place the rightful blame, onto HER.. rather than on Me.
- I was on the way to becoming a Narcissist myself.. and I have caught myself having many Narcissistic Tendencies, that I continually work to eradicate. However, I actually have Empathy for others... and tend to put others above myself, rather than the opposite. My younger Brother and Sisters, however, they Cracked Mentally.. and became Narcissists themselves. Interesting enough, they both married Abusive Narcissists. Very strange, indeed.
There's one guy on here who thinks I'm literally the antichrist because I don't share his political views
- That is what you call a "Radical". Someone whom thinks and feels in "Black and White". It actually happens to be one of many defining traits of a Narcissist. Either you are their best buddy... or you are seen as their Enemy. There is rarely much "in-between" that. Their emotions are also "Extreme". They can be very calm and happy, in one moment... and then at the flick of a switch, they can go into an insane state of Rage.
- This is part of the Disorder. It seems to be, that their emotions are way too Elevated, to the point of being extremely Distorted. Sort of like if you wore hearing aids.. when you didnt need them on... and the smallest of sounds, was Ear-Bleedingly painful. Some "Spooky" background music in a movie, for example... will cause them to experience a level of Fear / Terror.. that drives them to the point of getting Angry, for having to have had experienced those levels of fear. This hyper amplification and distortion of Emotions... causes their minds to partially "Fracture". In many causes, they develop a sort of Split Personality. The Inner Child, that is permanently stunted... and the "Alter Ego Protector", that acts as a sort of Protective Sheild. The Alter, is everything they are not: Confident, Popular, Intelligent, Brave..etc. They build this "Character", piece by piece.. often by examining what is most popular in "Pop Culture" (the assumed majority opinion of the Masses).
- This is actually very Relavant to the Actual Bad Movie situation... because the Narcissist have managed to gain positions of power and control. In positions in the Govt., Feminist Groups (and other Simular groups of power), as well as in the Eduacation systems, and the Mass Media. This is exactly why we have such awful movies... and why Society is currently falling apart.
- One only has to look at the Star Wars character of "Rai" to see it. They wanted to make a strong female lead... and she could do EVERYTHING and ANYTHING better than any of the others. They refused to show Rai training for more than a single clip... and they gave her G0d-Like Force powers, without ever having to Earn them. Why? Because the Narcissist cant handle the very idea, of showing the former "WEAK" character. Its too embarassing to them to handle. Yet to anyone else.. we want to experience the entire "Hero's Journey". We dont find it to be embarrassing. Instead, we find it to be "Inspiring". Of course, this is one of the many reasons, why the Narcissists cant make a film, that the masses will ever Enjoy and Connect with. Because the masses, do not think nor feel.. like a Narcissist.
If people want to be truly happy they need 2 things: Strong, loyal family ties (no infidelity, violence, lies or stupidity) and financial indestructibility.
- Well, I used to feel incredibly lonely... until I suffered even more manipulation and abuses from EX's. After the most recent Extreme EX, which luckily, I found out her true nature fairly quickly... I realized that I felt better alone, than with dealing with such creatures. I had spend way too much of my life, accepting bad behaviors.. and making excuses for them.. because I lacked my own self worth and value. Eventually I realized my own value... and I no longer put up with bad attitudes, and bad behaviors. At a certain point, I stopped needing others validation and attention... to feel "Contentment". And so now.. I am perfectly happy / fine.. on my own.
- While I would have loved to have a wonderful woman, and family in my life.. it just didnt work out that way.. and now, at my age (and condition), its too late for any of that.. and Im fine with it. My point basically being... that you actually Can be happy / content.. without others in your life. Many decades ago, I never would have wrote / felt like that..
Live a good moral life and your family will respect you. If you can't respect yourself, how can anyone else. It's kind of sad to see childless people trying to convince others that you don't need children to complete their lives and give things meaning.
- I 100% Agree, with all of that.
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- Its nice to know, regardless. Thanks for Sharing. Its good to hear some like minding "Sanity", in todays "Insane" times.