Ultimately Javery, you're doing the good stuff worth remembering.
When I find time to play video games, it can't be at the expense of anything else. I just played a couple rounds of defender, and my kids are in bed, so I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything.
When I do projects, I try to get my kids involved. I don't ever want to hear Cats and the Cradle and start crying like a baby, so I make sure I don't miss out on any family related stuff. Sure, it feels like you are losing yourself sometimes, but I found trying to do anything that's just for me, at the cost of family time, wasn't enjoyable.