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| eds1275:
Not literally. But told her not to come back. There is no back story. About a year ago she woke up, looked over at me and said "I don't love you any more, and it's over." Since then I have been doing my best to fix stuff but she just isn't receptive. We never had any problems in our relationship that couldn't be solved in an afternoon. She went on some anti depressants previously and have been on them ever since, and after research and talking to people at work (in a hospital) many people myself included believe that they are what causes her to have no feelings about anything. Anyways lately there has been pressure to sell the house and divide the winnings. She threatened to call the cops on me if I was ever "violent" again. I threw some oven mitts across the kitchen. |
| harveybirdman:
I'm sorry man, even if it wasn't meant to be it's gotta be hard to lose the history. Wishing you resolve and peace of mind. |
| dkersten:
I'm sorry to hear that. Divorce can really shake up your life, even if it is for the better, and no matter how good you think you are doing, chances are good that you are burying something that will explode on you at the worst possible time. Don't be afraid to lean on family and friends, and if things start to fall apart for you, don't hesitate to seek counseling. That part was by far the hardest thing I ever had to do - ask for help from other people. I hope it all works out for you. |
| B2K24:
I've always wondered how one person can toss the other person out of the house when both people sign the papers to obtain the home. |
| dkersten:
--- Quote from: B2K24 on April 11, 2016, 10:50:21 am ---I've always wondered how one person can toss the other person out of the house when both people sign the papers to obtain the home. --- End quote --- Depending on the state, this can be a very tricky situation. In most states both people have a right to live there, and I have seen many situations were both people live there during and even after the divorce, which can be a VERY difficult thing to deal with. In some states, it is important not to move out because it is equal to admitting you do not have a right to live there, or to an equal share of the property. Some states are cut and dry (50/50 split on all marital assets) while some can be much more complicated. It's a good idea to get an attorney immediately to find out exactly what is what. In my case it was easy: My wife told me I will be leaving and still paying for the house. I laughed. I then told her that if I leave, she has to come up with half the equity in the house and give it to me, AND she would have to refinance the house solely in her name. She said she couldn't do that (her credit is shot and although she made enough money, she usually spent it all before paying a single bill). I, on the other hand, had separated my accounts from hers years before and my credit was over 800, and I had already been paying 100% of the mortgage for several years, so I could both afford to take on the mortgage and had the ability to refinance. So I kicked her butt out and called it a day. I still live there, although frankly it felt like a mistake for the first few years. Now, nearly 6 years later, I feel like it was a great decision. Took a long time to get there though. |
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