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| adder:
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| ark_ader:
--- Quote from: Xiaou2 on June 02, 2015, 01:33:42 am --- --- Quote from: Zakk on June 01, 2015, 01:21:56 pm ---Life is what you make of it, not what it makes of you. If things aren't working for you long term, time to change everything you're doing because you're doing it wrong. Again and again it's "life isn't fair", well no, it's not. But it is what it is. --- End quote --- Insensitive, uncompassionate, worthless drivel. Tell me how Im not doing it right.. because I developed severe food allergies, to Wheat, Dairy, Eggs, and possibly other stuff. (most likely GMO crud) Its quite easy to talk down to someone, and quite different to live in their shoes for a few weeks... let alone, experience the lifetime of hell they went through... and continue to go through. Ever been Robbed by someone? How about by your own family? Ever been 5yrs old.. and had a father duct-tap your hands. feet, and mouth... then start revving power tools centimeters from your head? Threatening to cut you into little pieces, dump the parts in the ocean... where the sharks would eat them... and nobody would know??? I suppose thats my fault too right?! Yup, Im doing it wrong man. You sure got my number! --- End quote --- Nobody is saying that...well maybe Zakk did, but some people tend to attract the negative side of life. I'm sure we have all been there, as you have too it seems, but what ever happened to once bitten twice shy? Some people like to live on the edge, and get all grumpy if life is dealing you a winning hand all the time. I think Zakk is saying that people out there in the world are having it a lot worse than you, and only know such horror on a daily basis. I'm not sure about the Black and Decker Duct tape experience, but if we look at recent events in the media, your scenario is a walk in the park. Try and take this experience as a lesson, and start learning from it. Go bankrupt, get on Medicaid, social services etc. As it seems those people who take the benefits offered get the most help. Other that us poor souls that have to endure worse just to get a pay check, just to buy a cabinet and have someone ---steaming pile of meadow muffin--- all over you on the forums for it. The horror. |
| Zakk:
--- Quote from: Xiaou2 on June 02, 2015, 01:33:42 am --- --- Quote from: Zakk on June 01, 2015, 01:21:56 pm ---Life is what you make of it, not what it makes of you. If things aren't working for you long term, time to change everything you're doing because you're doing it wrong. Again and again it's "life isn't fair", well no, it's not. But it is what it is. --- End quote --- Insensitive, uncompassionate, worthless drivel. Tell me how Im not doing it right.. because I developed severe food allergies, to Wheat, Dairy, Eggs, and possibly other stuff. (most likely GMO crud) Its quite easy to talk down to someone, and quite different to live in their shoes for a few weeks... let alone, experience the lifetime of hell they went through... and continue to go through. Ever been Robbed by someone? How about by your own family? Ever been 5yrs old.. and had a father duct-tap your hands. feet, and mouth... then start revving power tools centimeters from your head? Threatening to cut you into little pieces, dump the parts in the ocean... where the sharks would eat them... and nobody would know??? I suppose thats my fault too right?! Yup, Im doing it wrong man. You sure got my number! --- End quote --- You see...what you did there...that's what I mean. Stop blaming people for the ---smurfy--- things they did and move on. It's done, there's nothing you can do about the past, but duct tape and power tools when you're 5 have no bearing on breaking into your place of work after hours and stealing water and electricity. For the record, I would have fired you too, and yes I'm sure it would have been all my fault for not being understanding. But hey, if blaming people and lashing out works for you, then by all means keep at it. I don't plan to offer any more advice, just keep doing what you're doing. For what it's worth I meant it as honest advice. Seems like you're going down a depressing path, maybe time to try a totally new one..oh jeez, there I go again with my drivel. Best of luck. |
| Zakk:
--- Quote from: pbj on June 01, 2015, 02:56:23 pm --- --- Quote from: Zakk on June 01, 2015, 01:21:56 pm ---There was a patient I used to see at the hospital everyday. He had tried to kill himself with a shotgun, but had only managed to blow his lower jaw off. Horribly disfigured he is still alive today, and living a relatively normal life (reportedly). --- End quote --- You are the fourth person I've heard claim this, and unless you're my EMT roommate from 2001, or the nurse neighbor from 2006, or the volunteer fire fighter - this injury is very common or you're all fibbing. Let me guess, it wasn't really your patient, it was one you heard about? --- End quote --- Victoria hospital, South street campus, london ontario circa ~2000. Go ---fudgesicle--- yourself jim. I was the materials managment guy, had to come into the severe trauma ward every morning, looked at the guy in the eye for about 6 months 5 times a week. He was fed through a tube in his throat, I could draw a picture if you would like. I remember why I don't come to this place much, oh and jim go ---fudgesicle--- yourself. |
| dkersten:
--- Quote from: Xiaou2 on June 02, 2015, 01:33:42 am --- --- Quote from: Zakk on June 01, 2015, 01:21:56 pm ---Life is what you make of it, not what it makes of you. If things aren't working for you long term, time to change everything you're doing because you're doing it wrong. Again and again it's "life isn't fair", well no, it's not. But it is what it is. --- End quote --- Insensitive, uncompassionate, worthless drivel. --- End quote --- Frankly I think it is this attitude that will keep you down in life. I am not saying this to be a dick or to kick you when you are down - I would say the same thing (and have) to my own kids. You have not made a lot of friends on this forum, yet when you announce that you are going through a rough time there has been nothing but compassion and caring shown. Rather than stomp on that, embrace it and use it to lift your spirits. I spent a couple years on a divorce forum after my divorce, and I didn't always like what people had to say, but the fact is they were right most of the time. It isn't always easy to hear that you have "made your own bed" but sometimes you have to hear it. You got the shorter end of the stick in many ways, and for that I am sorry for you. You can spend your life blaming others or you can own your situation and take measures to fix it. You will never fix it as long as you are wasting your energy pointing fingers and feeling sorry for yourself. Don't focus on the abuse you suffered as a child, focus on the things that help you get past the PTSD it created in your life. I needed some counseling when I became depressed after my divorce, so I went to my local church and made use of their pastoral counselors, which was free of charge. They didn't preach to me or try to convert me, they were properly schooled therapists who were doing an internship. It helped me get through something I didn't think I could get through. Don't focus on the fact that you have a food allergy that is dragging you down, focus on what foods are causing it and make efforts to avoid them so you can feel better. You have access to the internet, start learning about what is causing your issues and how to avoid them. My daughter was allergic to wheat and apples as a child. About 95% of all food is made with either wheat or apples (as a sweetener), so it was not easy. Don't focus on the fact that you are unemployed, focus on where you can go next and how you can use this to make your life better. Now that you aren't employed you have nothing tying you down for 24 hours each day. That is a lot of time you could be spending finding a new job. You have a friend who saw you needed help and held out a hand, and you are focused on how crappy the neighborhood is. Why not focus on how much better you have it than you would if he hadn't reached out to help? I have had the privilege of knowing some very successful people in my life. They will all tell you the same thing: "The harder I work, the luckier I get." Amazingly, nearly everyone who has worked their ass off and been successful at what they are working on will tell you that focus, dedication, and lots of hard work is what got them there. It doesn't happen overnight. I spent the first 10 years of my adult life drowning in debt, fielding collector calls, sometimes dozens each night, not sleeping well because I didn't know if I could pay for daycare, food, or the rent for my trailer. Then when things first turned around for me and I had $2k in savings for the first time in my life, my wife's transmission failed and it cost me $2k to fix. I was devastated until my dad asked me where I would have gotten the money if I hadn't had it in savings. The answer was I would be in more debt, and I realized the difference between being happy and being unhappy was in the way I looked at things, not in my situation. A positive outlook will do more for you in life than any skill or good fortune. Instead of facing each day with dread, face it with a positive outlook and a smile. Wake up and tell yourself that this day is not going to defeat you, you are going to take control of it and master it like you have mastered other things in your life. Good luck. |
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