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pbj:
Can personally confirm it doesn't always get better.

Le Chuck:
I moved my brother's teen daughter in with us for a year trying to help her sort it out. Similar situation from the sound of it. My older sister has done the same with other teens. Inviting a teen that isn't yours into your home is an adventure and it can stress the rest of your relationships. I'm glad Addi came and lived with us, and while I don't think it did any good, for all I know she could have ended up much worse and I at least kept her on a path towards meh.

---steaming pile of meadow muffin--- man, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink. Doesn't mean you shouldn't lead them tho. Lead them, if they're not thirsty perhaps they'll remember the way to the well when they are.

dkersten:

--- Quote from: pbj on April 20, 2015, 04:12:07 pm ---Can personally confirm it doesn't always get better.

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For the people making the bad decisions like dropping out of school? No, sometimes nothing helps, including hitting bottom, and sometimes they dig themselves so deep of a hole that they can't get out, even if they decide for themselves it is time to change. But for the people who care about those making poor decisions, it will get better. It hurts at first, and it can get worse, but eventually, as with any loss, it will get better. Acceptance of your inability to make good decisions for people you care about is difficult, and the pain they can cause you is as real as any.

Mr_Numbers:
How old are these boys that dropped out and just play video games all day? If they are 16+ they just need to go get a job and a GED, it's a multiple choice exam so just about anyone/everyone will pass it given enough time (I've yet to hear a story of someone needing more than 3 tries except for the most degenerate of crack/meth heads). I especially think they need to be working if there mother is working two jobs to support them, else it sounds like they don't care about anyone but themselves. I say if they can't take these basic steps and are unwilling to move for assistance they don't deserve your help (I.E. they'll not respect your help or appreciate it in any way).

Howard_Casto:

--- Quote from: eds1275 on April 20, 2015, 12:01:15 pm ---
Anyways I don't know if I want to try to help them or throttle them. Can it be both?
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Yes, yes it can.

There's an expression in the south. God gave you two hands for your family, so you have one hand to hold them, and another to knock some sense into them.

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