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lcmgadgets:

--- Quote from: SavannahLion on October 18, 2012, 02:35:28 am ---I'd rather icmgadget get the money and any accrued interest in his own account that lining the pockets of some greedy  :censored: at PP.

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Stupid reminder. This'll work IF u trust me. Somebody else pointed out; my story should b checked 1st. Even if u trust me, I'd like to c this subject continue to live after Harrison & I...don't need it anymore?...can get along without it?...are managing better on our own. & thats going to require confirming claims, or someday, somebody is going to take advantage of it/us (can I speak for 'us', meaning the other byoacers?) So how would I prove my story? I could send copies of the death certificate to prove she died, & a marriage certificate to prove she was my wife. But what about my claims about Harrison? Copies of doctor's letters? Seems thats overreaching a safe level of confidentiality. What if some1 had the job of back checking claims, collecting & keeping confidential papers, etc.?

Mayb, given that u guys (esp CheffoJeffo) have been so kind as to do this for H' & me, thats part of how I could pay it back, & forward. Except, again, theres a trust issue. Must b some way around it...

Craig

Le Chuck:

--- Quote from: lcmgadgets on October 18, 2012, 10:22:29 am --- Except, again, theres a trust issue. Must b some way around it...

Craig

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There is.  We can just trust you.  I do and I don't think that your providing sensitive documents is in your best interest.  Cheffo already did some fact checking via the local paper and that's good enough for me.  Anybody that wasn't good enough for wasn't going to contribute anyway. 

ChadTower:

The plan is for me to set up some form of collection mechanism (likely Paypal but we're still hemming on that), and then at some point transfer the funds to Cheffo, and he will make an in person deposit at a Bank of Montreal branch.  I have had it as an unofficial part of the plan, as well, to wait until you finish your legal process for changing your account into a true trust for Harrison. 

Not that we don't believe you but that's just the smart way to do it for all involved.  I've been super cash strapped with dependents and I know how easy it is to grab whatever cash is on hand just to get through today.  That's just the reality of life so I'd rather wait until we can put it right into the trust and help him out in the longer view.



lcmgadgets:

--- Quote from: ChadTower on October 18, 2012, 11:10:20 am ---
Not that we don't believe you but that's just the smart way to do it for all involved.  I've been super cash strapped with dependents and I know how easy it is to grab whatever cash is on hand just to get through today.  That's just the reality of life so I'd rather wait until we can put it right into the trust and help him out in the longer view.


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I absolutely agree. I would feel much more comfortable with that fund locked down --BINGO! Either that, or I was attempting to say "before" but it was too many letters to type-- contributions r made. For reasons I'll go into if people want, I have some other money in the same account that I'm going to have to sort out --BINGO! Either that, or I was attempting to say "before" but it was too many letters to type-- everything is finished. & on that note, there will b another blasted delay. I was supposed to c the lawyer yesterday (not that we would have had it done by then, but we would have at least made some progress), but his secretary called me to say that he'd injured his back, & the appointment's been postponed til next monday. I think I mentioned that Laura didn't have a will? (We had been working on it, we had had 1 last appointment to sign the papers, & we'd had to cancel 4 medical reasons--I think thats when she was scheduled to go in to get her trach, which was, at that point, way more important than anything else). We had a lump of money saved up, which can carry H' & I for quite a while, possibly even a couple of years (I want to save as much of it as I can 4 him & my retirement, though) except that its in her name, & until the lawyer finishes probating (its not a true probate, I forget the term he used, but its effectively the same thing) the will, I can't get at it. We have another smaller lump in a joint account, & I'm working on getting other sources of funding that we weren't eligible 4 --BINGO! Either that, or I was attempting to say "before" but it was too many letters to type-- but now r. & there're family members who have promised to chip in if need b, & the credit card 4 emergencies. We should have enuf to carry us across the gap, while I try to figure out our expenses. But I can't help but worry. Anyway, my point is, now thats been a little postponed too. It'll work out though, I know.

I'm rambling again. Thank u, all of u, again. That'll b at the end of my posts, I think, 4 a very long time to come. Mayb permanently. In fact, I think I'll change my sig. (the Godzilla 1 is 1 of my all time favourite, though...lol)

CheffoJeffo:
Definitely easiest for me to do the deposit as my BMO branch is around the corner and international bank transfers can be a PITA.

I know I owe some of you replies to PMs -- sorry, in the midst of a crazy week.

Thanks for the notes and I will get back to you shortly.

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