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Title: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: Ummon on May 19, 2009, 09:26:22 pm
So, I'm curious: anybody out there who is (willing to admit they're) in a poly-amorous circumstance (or, relationship, I suppose)? If not, go ahead and comment on the idea. All good fun.
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: saint on May 19, 2009, 09:32:01 pm
Oh this one ought to go well...  >:D
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: shardian on May 19, 2009, 09:38:46 pm
I admit it, I had to google that one. Seems like quite an oxymoron!

Also seems like it was invented by jack-holes who don't want to commit themselves to anything/anyone, and don't think any of their actions should result in consequences.
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: pinballwizard79 on May 19, 2009, 10:05:11 pm
Its all fun until you talk to either of em more than once a week, it gets weird if speaking becomes routine.

Start Saturday night, not Sunday morning... because there is a HUGE difference between a few hours & leaving vs spending the day together doing non cool ---Cleveland steamer--- like looking at puppies or shoes.

I knew a few strippers & lots of party girls back in the late 90's & very early 2000's.....back in the disco days of bottled water & um glowsticks. Cinnamon & Ginger............... Chasity & Kitty......... I hate being 30 & sober!



EDIT: More advice, try to pick up your GF's when meeting em.....ask to use their bathroom.... see if there is trash in the trash can (DONT DIG AROUND IN IT) you know the night isnt going as planned if there is garbage so get your escape route ready


Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: mccoy178 on May 19, 2009, 10:16:47 pm

EDIT: More advice, try to pick up your GF's when meeting em.....ask to use their bathroom.... see if there is trash in the trash can (DONT DIG AROUND IN IT) you know the night isnt going as planned if there is garbage so get your escape route ready

Wow, just wow. ::)
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: pinballwizard79 on May 20, 2009, 12:21:21 am
Did you seriously just roll your eyes at me?

I'm just having fun with this thread  :tool:

Ok so maybe some of it was real but we all gotta vent our weirdness sometimes.
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: shmokes on May 20, 2009, 12:48:24 am
I don't see anything wrong with it for couples who can deal with it emotionally.  With that said, I think most couples who think they can deal with it emotionally find out the hard way that they were wrong.
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: mccoy178 on May 20, 2009, 07:47:20 am

EDIT: More advice, try to pick up your GF's when meeting em.....ask to use their bathroom.... see if there is trash in the trash can (DONT DIG AROUND IN IT) you know the night isnt going as planned if there is garbage so get your escape route ready

Wow, just wow. ::)
Yeah, it wasn't exactly the emoticon I was looking for, but that is close.
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: Malenko on May 20, 2009, 08:02:20 am
Sounds like a bad idea waiting to happen. I couldn't do it, I mean yeah it sounds good banging another chick, until you look over and some guy is banging your chick.

shouldnt this be in PnR?
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: shardian on May 20, 2009, 08:20:09 am
Sounds like a bad idea waiting to happen. I couldn't do it, I mean yeah it sounds good banging another chick, until you look over and some guy is banging your chick.

shouldnt this be in PnR?

Heh, you ever seen Summer of Sam. That swinger part was awesome. Here he is banging some chick, while he's watching his wife get it (upon his urging) from some other guy. Then he has the nerve to call his wife a huge ---stingray---!
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: shmokes on May 20, 2009, 09:27:53 am
She does sound kinda slutty. 
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: Cakemeister on May 20, 2009, 09:53:42 am
I had to google the term, too.

Sounds like swingers with slightly better morals.

Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: hypernova on May 20, 2009, 06:41:16 pm
People who had to look it up must not be Breaking Benjamin fans.
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: crashwg on May 21, 2009, 01:26:40 pm
Anyone I've ever met that advocates this has generally been very ugly, and it's usually two skinny dudes being lorded over by a gigantic woman.



Ain't that the truth!
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: srabelpawz on May 21, 2009, 02:27:47 pm
People who had to look it up must not be Breaking Benjamin fans.
  haha. i was thinking that too.
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: Cakemeister on May 21, 2009, 05:37:09 pm
I thought Breaking Benjamin was a TV show like "Breaking Bad".

But they are a band I've never heard of.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Breaking_Benjamin
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: hypernova on May 21, 2009, 08:51:20 pm
One of my favorite rock bands.
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: Ummon on May 21, 2009, 09:48:49 pm
Oh this one ought to go well...  >:D

<smiles>


I met with some members of a local group, cos I was curious what they might be like as people. It happened to be a weeknight meeting, so not many attended. Three males and one female, none of them specifically involved with each other. One male was 40, the other two were above fifty, and the female was mid-40s I think. She was tall and rather skinny, but she wasn't ugly, let alone skanky. All were fairly educated and had children. In fact, they were so....normal...I was a slight disappointed...at least in that they didn't really have beliefs that were beyond Liberalism.

Remember, poly-amory isn't about sex, it's about loving people, yet may include sexual relations. What this means is that at least up to that, all members may be as physically and emotionally intimate as they would be with any significant other. Ideally, every member of the group would be equally intimate with every other member. So gender isn't really an issue, in general.
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: saint on May 21, 2009, 10:01:05 pm
I met with some members of a local group, cos I was curious what they might be like as people.

Uh-huh. I read Playboy for the articles.
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: pinballwizard79 on May 21, 2009, 11:55:48 pm
Obviously I misunderstood the true intentions thread.

I thought at first this was all just a nice way to say "2 chicks at the same time man" (office space reference) but its sounding like you really meant what you said now regarding a RELATIONSHIP.

Its one thing to take two strippers home who dance for powder but to have a relationship with another man & woman who live a normal life is......well......in my book....which was previously a very very corrupt book btw.........weird, & I mean that in a bad way.

Didn't you see boogie nights man?


Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: danny_galaga on May 22, 2009, 01:12:27 am
Anyone I've ever met that advocates this has generally been very ugly, and it's usually two skinny dudes being lorded over by a gigantic woman.



 :laugh2:
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: TOK on May 22, 2009, 03:08:27 pm

I met with some members of a local group, cos I was curious what they might be like as people. It happened to be a weeknight meeting, so not many attended. Three males and one female, none of them specifically involved with each other. One male was 40, the other two were above fifty, and the female was mid-40s I think. She was tall and rather skinny, but she wasn't ugly, let alone skanky. All were fairly educated and had children. In fact, they were so....normal...I was a slight disappointed...at least in that they didn't really have beliefs that were beyond Liberalism.

Remember, poly-amory isn't about sex, it's about loving people, yet may include sexual relations. What this means is that at least up to that, all members may be as physically and emotionally intimate as they would be with any significant other. Ideally, every member of the group would be equally intimate with every other member. So gender isn't really an issue, in general.

Initially, I thought it sounded like someone who wanted to have sex with a parrot. The reality is possibly worse.  :P
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: ChadTower on May 22, 2009, 04:02:44 pm

The problem with that theory is that Polly is so racist.  Polly only wanna cracka.
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: HaRuMaN on May 22, 2009, 04:24:01 pm
 ::)
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: saint on May 22, 2009, 06:40:57 pm

The problem with that theory is that Polly is so racist.  Polly only wanna cracka.

Groan. Where's my ban button?
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: ChadTower on May 22, 2009, 07:07:56 pm
Groan. Where's my ban button?


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Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: Ummon on May 23, 2009, 05:14:57 pm
quote author=saint link=topic=92569.msg973027#msg973027 date=1242957665]
I met with some members of a local group, cos I was curious what they might be like as people.

Uh-huh. I read Playboy for the articles.

[/quote]

You know. both my parents did. Of course, they also looked at the girls. (We also had Penthouse and Hustler in the house - the good stuff ((at the time)) .)  In any case, my interest in the physical destitution they currently show is less than my interest in firearms, which is about none.



The problem with that theory is that Polly is so racist.  Polly only wanna cracka.

Groan. Where's my ban button?



Hahahahhahahah - nao, that was GOOD.


Obviously I misunderstood the true intentions thread.

I thought at first this was all just a nice way to say "2 chicks at the same time man" (office space reference) but its sounding like you really meant what you said now regarding a RELATIONSHIP.

Its one thing to take two strippers home who dance for powder but to have a relationship with another man & woman who live a normal life is......well......in my book....which was previously a very very corrupt book btw.........weird, & I mean that in a bad way.

Didn't you see boogie nights man?




Lad, what you appear to think of as 'corrupt' would seem to be pretty tame. I've lived far....erm, stranger...than boogie nights. With only a female, I probably still do things that are taboo to you, but are commonplace to me....like cuddling.
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: danny_galaga on May 23, 2009, 09:18:27 pm


You know. both my parents did. Of course, they also looked at the girls.
[/quote]

 :o

oh, you mean read magazines...
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: shmokes on May 23, 2009, 11:32:58 pm
Skeevy
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: shmokes on May 24, 2009, 02:17:45 pm
God, I wish I could be ahead of my time. 
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: Ummon on May 25, 2009, 04:48:56 pm
Well, given that this thread was started by the big shorts dude, I think it's automatically 'skeevy'.

Hahahahahah. Actually, I've had females...um, women....give impromptu appraisal on first seeing those beige shorts. They think they're pretty nice, and are surprised when I tell them the shorts, essentially, are swim trunks.


God, I wish I could be ahead of my time. 

Well, incidentally, here's an example that cropped up yesterday. This is an exchange I had on a dating/friends site:


I of course started the conversation due to her mentioning of scif-fi (skiffy) in her profile


(subject line)  SF vs science fiction vs sci-fi


(me)

Hello. This may seem rather pedantic, but, simply:

- sci-fi is, like, fantasy in space; often kitschy and not literary; no real science in it; the majority of pop culture examples are like this.

- science fiction: the original, actually pejorative term, that was adopted by those in the field sort of. Even Greg still uses it, but I never do.

- SF: the real stuff - and you do read some of it: Bear, for example. Baxter is considerd HARD SF. Incidentally, you might also like Gregory Benford.

- then there's the in-between stuff, often called space opera, for example Peter F. Hamilton's stuff (especially The Night's Dawn trilogy).

- and, lastly, there's the stuff that transcends genre - like Dan Simmon's Hyperion Cantos, and Ilium and Olympos. Think heavy classical elements, literally and figuratively.


 
(her)

Yesterday - 1:58pm Yeah, it is pedantic, but the only way to avoid that would be to start a conversation first and then introduce the subject somewhere in there. It's always harsh getting a lesson from an expert just cut and dry like this. Nevertheless, I will use the information and probably the recommendation as well. Thank you.

 
(me)
 
Yesterday - 2:14pm You're welcome. If you don't mind, and perhaps perpetuating my criminal activity: It's only harsh because of the social models you use, hon. I'm quite confident, somewhat capable, and yet very tangential. I encourage this. Anyone can interact in whatever way at whatever time. There is....balance in this.
 

 
(her)

Yesterday - 8:50pm It's definitely interesting. Your perspective on this is intriguing and confusing somewhat. Since I obviously don't have a handle on where you're coming from I have to ask: Aren't you adhering to or at least playing by the rules of "my social models", rigid or stifled as they apparently are, by prefacing your comments with a warning/apology? You did it both times. So -- you're not a jerk, you are purely pedantic, I get that. It's interesting that you comment on my apparent commitment to a social norm that's not as free as yours, in your opinion. I thought I was simply responding to your cues that seemed to want to buffer the harshness, and in as much admitting the harshness of it in that way. No? I'm just asking. There is a lot I can learn about taking a step out of these social models that have molded my behavior. It's something that I don't mind admitting. My background was quite extreme in that regard and not just in one facet of my life but two of the main influential ones. It's been over fifteen years since I've tried to analyze, and change that programming but it's not easy. I envy people like you that have achieved that freedom. Deep philosophical conversations are also hard to come by and are of great interest to me, not to mention the fact that I love learning and most especially about subjects that are so deeply personal. It seems to be a subject of particular interest to you as well, or I suspect you would not have brought it out so specifically. Maybe I'm wrong. In any case. Your response is eagerly anticipated. = ]


____________


Man, Chopra ain't got nuttin on mae.
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: TOK on May 25, 2009, 05:16:08 pm
Sweet. Good luck with the bludgeoning and carpet rolling.
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: RayB on May 25, 2009, 05:28:47 pm
Sounds like a perfect match.
I look forward to the Star Trek wedding, which will no doubt follow about a year from now.
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: shmokes on May 26, 2009, 01:25:14 am
OMG!  You actually had real, live, typed-out message-board interaction with a female on a dating/friendship website???  You MUST be ahead of your time. 

God . . . the envy.
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: ChadTower on May 26, 2009, 09:59:07 am

That was rather pedantic the same way an atomic bomb is sorta loud.
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: Ummon on May 27, 2009, 05:20:34 pm
Sounds like a perfect match.
I look forward to the Star Trek wedding, which will no doubt follow about a year from now.


Well, a prereq is she must have a booty and like to be spanked  :P   Aesthetics, you know.



That was rather pedantic the same way an atomic bomb is sorta loud.

If you meant my last there - well, but so tastily so, mm?  (Tastily like a killer judo air on a half-pipe.)
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: Ummon on May 29, 2009, 06:04:22 pm
OMG!  You actually had real, live, typed-out message-board interaction with a female on a dating/friendship website???  You MUST be ahead of your time. 

God . . . the envy.

Forgot to mention: actually, before this incident, I had something very similar happen with some other *woman* there....that went all the way to her bedroom...with both of us in it. The rest I'm not at liberty to expound upon here, though would gladly indulge if it were allowed.



All we can do is hope and pray this turns into BYOAC's version of the Got Any Date Advice? thread.


Please oh please oh please.



Hah hah hah hah hah hah hah.  Just call me Dr. Umm.
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: shmokes on May 29, 2009, 06:06:51 pm
I'm guessing that you not seen the thread he is referring to, Ummon.   :laugh2:
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: Cakemeister on May 29, 2009, 07:37:46 pm
Noice seems to have turned out okay.
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: CheffoJeffo on May 29, 2009, 08:55:04 pm
 ;D

Wonder how he feels about turtles and sideart ?
Title: Re: Not polygamy, poly-amory....
Post by: Ummon on May 31, 2009, 02:44:02 pm
I'm guessing that you not seen the thread he is referring to, Ummon.   :laugh2:

I guess not.