Hey all,
Unfortunately, I am sitting in the hospital right now with my wife. She is 29 weeks pregnant and is under observation to keep her from going into preterm labor. Who knows how long she will be in here, or when she might go into labor. We've been here before, as our first baby was born at 23 weeks last April. He was much too early, and only lived for a month. Hopefully, things go much better this time.
So I just want to ask you all to keep us in your prayers.
Thanks,
Shardian
Best of luck. Been thru it, and it sucks.
Remember - if ever stuck in the hopsital for any length of time - BRIBE THE NURSES. Bring 'em cookies, or bagels, or candy trays... anything edible and sealed is good.
The doctors may make the decisions, but its the nurses that get things done.
That's hard. She's stable at least, though, at the moment. That's by far the most important thing.
Of decidedly secondary importance: Are you going to run into financial problems because of this?
I thought you said they were family friendly and would cut you enough slack...? Do you have other kids to take care of while your wife is in the hospital?
To sum up, the last year of my life has sucked horribly. To tell the truth, the arcade hobby and this forum are probably the only things that keep me sane.
Basically, my company is family friendly, but they still want me to get work done if possible. The problem is my head is just not there. It was the same way when I took off for Riley - I know where I need to be, but I always feel the pull to obligations, you know? It's like this little voice in your head that says, "they don't really mean take off the time. They really want you to get back in there and take one for the team". You never know right? That is the feeling I am talking about that eats at me and frustrates me to the point I can't relax. What I want more than anything is to cut loose from all my obligations and just be with my family with a clear mind.
I thought you said they were family friendly and would cut you enough slack...? Do you have other kids to take care of while your wife is in the hospital?
Well, I had this long post all written and then I realized it was a bit whiny. I feel better typing it all out, but now I'll present the revised edition
Basically, my company is family friendly, but they still want me to get work done if possible. The problem is my head is just not there. It was the same way when I took off for Riley - I know where I need to be, but I always feel the pull to obligations, you know? It's like this little voice in your head that says, "they don't really mean take off the time. They really want you to get back in there and take one for the team". You never know right? That is the feeling I am talking about that eats at me and frustrates me to the point I can't relax. What I want more than anything is to cut loose from all my obligations and just be with my family with a clear mind.
To sum up, the last year of my life has sucked horribly. To tell the truth, the arcade hobby and this forum are probably the only things that keep me sane.
Take there word for it man...take the time off.
When it comes to your job, it's all about your direct manager. If he is a decent guy, he'll help you through the workplace situation. If he's not, you could easily end up unemployed quickly.
This is the reason I hate hospitals and doctors- there is always extremely poor communication on every front.
When it comes to your job, it's all about your direct manager. If he is a decent guy, he'll help you through the workplace situation. If he's not, you could easily end up unemployed quickly.
My direct supervisor is awesome. He will be the design manager as soon as the current one retires in a year or two. Well, he unofficially is already to tell the truth.
Now for an update:
Michelle was released yesterday. I'm sure they'll readmit her again next week though, so I won't get too excited. The doctor that was there also discovered she tested positive for another blood clotting disorder that NOONE HAS EVER TOLD HER ABOUT! This is the reason I hate hospitals and doctors- there is always extremely poor communication on every front. She was apparently supposed to be taking alot of extra folic acid this whole time due to the new disorder, and she hasn't been. Needless to say, I am quite pissed off.
Anyways, I think we will switch to the other specialist in the office now. I didn't have a problem with our doctor being a cocky bastard. I do have a problem with him being overly-cocky and missing possibly important details.
When it comes to your job, it's all about your direct manager. If he is a decent guy, he'll help you through the workplace situation. If he's not, you could easily end up unemployed quickly.
I'm sorry, but first you complain about poor communication, then latter you wish to change to an Indian doctor.
I've had a few Indian doctors over the years and don't quite follow the logic there.
(I.E. Tank eue come ah-gain!)
But I'm sure you know what feels right and if you're more comfortable with her then by all means man, go for it!
Anyways, I think we will switch to the other specialist in the office now. I didn't have a problem with our doctor being a cocky bastard. I do have a problem with him being overly-cocky and missing possibly important details.
Good idea. Do it quickly, too.
In my experience, women always make better OB/GYN/other female specific specialities. They just understand more and care more.
Apparently everyone assumed Michelle knew and was already taking Folic acid...except for the fact it was never prescribed, and they never mentioned it whatsover to verify she was keeping up with her meds.
Apparently everyone assumed Michelle knew and was already taking Folic acid...except for the fact it was never prescribed, and they never mentioned it whatsover to verify she was keeping up with her meds.
Firstly Shardian, glad to hear that your wife is slowly on the mend but you are still in my thoughts.
Secondly, from your statement above, are you saying that folic acid is by prescription only in the US?
The doctor that was there also discovered she tested positive for another blood clotting disorder that NOONE HAS EVER TOLD HER ABOUT!
The doctor that was there also discovered she tested positive for another blood clotting disorder that NOONE HAS EVER TOLD HER ABOUT!
Ask the docs about Lovenox (I might have spelled that wrong...) My wife was having trouble carrying, and her fertility doc prescribed this blood thinner... Apparently it can't do any harm, and can help with clotting disorders.
The doctor that was there also discovered she tested positive for another blood clotting disorder that NOONE HAS EVER TOLD HER ABOUT!
Ask the docs about Lovenox (I might have spelled that wrong...) My wife was having trouble carrying, and her fertility doc prescribed this blood thinner... Apparently it can't do any harm, and can help with clotting disorders.
She has been on that the whole time. It was really funny, because the first time she had to do the shot she almost passed out. Now, it is nothing to her. That stuff is VERY expensive - $2000/month. I count my lucky stars that insurance covered it.
Glad to hear that Michelle has been able to hold on this long. Keep taking it day by day and before you know it it will be all over.
Glad to hear that Michelle has been able to hold on this long. Keep taking it day by day and before you know it it will be all over.
No, before they know it the first part will be all over. They'll still have a good amount ahead of them as the baby will likely need some extra support and attention after the difficult pregnancy. The baby will pull thru and be healthy but it will probably have a bit more challenge in the process. That's ---my bottom---umption based on the info we have and a good amount of experience, anyway. So really, the first part is over, but the second leg of the journey begins after delivery.
Don't worry Chad, I understand. Hopefully she'll be healthy as a horse though.
The replies I usually don't like are the "Now you get to be miserable for the next 2 years" kind of replies. I know people are just trying to be friendly with things like this, but they just don't understand, and I am happy for them that they don't.
Don't worry Chad, I understand. Hopefully she'll be healthy as a horse though.
The replies I usually don't like are the "Now you get to be miserable for the next 2 years" kind of replies. I know people are just trying to be friendly with things like this, but they just don't understand, and I am happy for them that they don't.
I believe this is the first time in history that this forum and hobby have been described in the same breath as keeping someone sane!To sum up, the last year of my life has sucked horribly. To tell the truth, the arcade hobby and this forum are probably the only things that keep me sane.
So, in a way it sucks to lose friends and family, but the return of knowing who you can count on when the chips are down I think will pay off in the long run.
non parents just don't understand such things.
So, in a way it sucks to lose friends and family, but the return of knowing who you can count on when the chips are down I think will pay off in the long run.
During emergencies I've also run into a third category... people who care but cannot be counted on to do anything and/or actually make things worse when they try.
Sorry about that.
I discussed earlier in the thread that we had a baby born premature last April. He was only 23 weeks along and weighed 1lb 4oz. He lived for 25 days. Those are pictures of him.
Sorry about that.
I discussed earlier in the thread that we had a baby born premature last April. He was only 23 weeks along and weighed 1lb 4oz. He lived for 25 days. Those are pictures of him.
He's a beautiful child and I feel lucky that you shared those with us.
Was it obstructive or centrally based (brain signals)?
Ow. We're pulling for them.
Chad: WTF ? Perhaps you can troll in P&R.I'm not trolling... if you've ever had to go through something like that in a Canadian hospital, you'd understand. You're right in that that is for another thread, though, so my bad.
Throwin' up gang signs already. They grow up so fast now. :'(
On a side note she looks so comfy in that pillow roll it makes me wish I had one adult size.You are in luck. The Snoogle Pillow (http://www.amazon.com/Leachco-Inc-Snoogle-Original/dp/B0000635WI) And yes, it is comfy.
Did I miss the little one's name?Elizabeth Renee