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The wait is FINALLY over
ark_ader:
--- Quote from: RTSDaddy2 on May 24, 2008, 09:47:39 pm ---Jdurg,
Not inciting anything here....be glad to answer as best I can :).
Our child is 5 1/2, and she's a very sensitive little soul. Now do not misread that: I'm not trying to protect her from other kids hurting her feelings; in fact, while I've been out of work, she's been in a daycare center while Mommy and I both did part to full time jobs, or temp jobs. So she's had that happen a lot.
Who I'm protecting, for now, is me, as selfish as that is. We could afford for her to attend the school I'll be teaching at, but I'm not sure I'm ready yet to have her come "looking for me" every time something doesn't go her way. Who knows? Maybe she wouldn't, maybe I'm just overthinking, but again that's part of it - I don't wish to start a new career wondering every day when she may decide she needs her daddy.
In so far as the social interation goes, my wife is in the process of looking up local homeschool groups of parents. They have big playdates from time to time; also, as our family is active in our church, my kid attends Sunday school regularly. She has several friends in her class, but she and one little girl have play dates nearly every weekend.
How does she handle social interaction where she doesn't know the kids? Very well, I thank you. We make frequent trips to McDonald's and she'll play with any kid there, provided they're not "screechy." Ruby's ears are very sensitive, and she doesn't deal well with screaming playmates, but I've seen her play for an hour or better with kids she doesn't even know on several occasions.
Finally, my wife had bad experiences in her public school life, and the schools around us are not necessarily noted for their strength in education.
That's probably a bit longer explanation than you bargained for, but that's pretty much where we are on the subject in a nutshell. When she gets older, if SHE tells us she wants to go to school, we've already decided we'll let her....just in these formative years, my wife feels better - as do I - if my wife leads the charge. :)
--- Quote from: Franco B on May 24, 2008, 06:13:05 pm ---Congrats, this is obviously something you have wanted and have been waiting for and im happy for you. :applaud:
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Thank you. The waiting was the hardest part - I turned down two or three jobs because things just didn't feel right. That was really hard....but I knew that particular principal type and I would not get along,and I didn't feel like starting all over again within a year's time. There's a lot of room for growth at my new school, and I intend to take as much advantage of it as I can. It was refreshing to hear they hoped I would be around for a long time - just what I'm hoping for too!
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So you are saying your child has special needs, and could be disruptive with other children of her age, which needs to be handled with home schooling?
Doesn't that put your child at risk, from learning and bonding with other children at her age, not to mention building up an immune system that children benefit from school, for example chicken pox?
Sounds like a disaster in the making to me, unless she is mentally challenged in some way.
That's how I read it anyway.
Jdurg:
--- Quote from: ark_ader on May 25, 2008, 04:33:41 am ---
--- Quote from: RTSDaddy2 on May 24, 2008, 09:47:39 pm ---Jdurg,
Not inciting anything here....be glad to answer as best I can :).
Our child is 5 1/2, and she's a very sensitive little soul. Now do not misread that: I'm not trying to protect her from other kids hurting her feelings; in fact, while I've been out of work, she's been in a daycare center while Mommy and I both did part to full time jobs, or temp jobs. So she's had that happen a lot.
Who I'm protecting, for now, is me, as selfish as that is. We could afford for her to attend the school I'll be teaching at, but I'm not sure I'm ready yet to have her come "looking for me" every time something doesn't go her way. Who knows? Maybe she wouldn't, maybe I'm just overthinking, but again that's part of it - I don't wish to start a new career wondering every day when she may decide she needs her daddy.
In so far as the social interation goes, my wife is in the process of looking up local homeschool groups of parents. They have big playdates from time to time; also, as our family is active in our church, my kid attends Sunday school regularly. She has several friends in her class, but she and one little girl have play dates nearly every weekend.
How does she handle social interaction where she doesn't know the kids? Very well, I thank you. We make frequent trips to McDonald's and she'll play with any kid there, provided they're not "screechy." Ruby's ears are very sensitive, and she doesn't deal well with screaming playmates, but I've seen her play for an hour or better with kids she doesn't even know on several occasions.
Finally, my wife had bad experiences in her public school life, and the schools around us are not necessarily noted for their strength in education.
That's probably a bit longer explanation than you bargained for, but that's pretty much where we are on the subject in a nutshell. When she gets older, if SHE tells us she wants to go to school, we've already decided we'll let her....just in these formative years, my wife feels better - as do I - if my wife leads the charge. :)
--- Quote from: Franco B on May 24, 2008, 06:13:05 pm ---Congrats, this is obviously something you have wanted and have been waiting for and im happy for you. :applaud:
--- End quote ---
Thank you. The waiting was the hardest part - I turned down two or three jobs because things just didn't feel right. That was really hard....but I knew that particular principal type and I would not get along,and I didn't feel like starting all over again within a year's time. There's a lot of room for growth at my new school, and I intend to take as much advantage of it as I can. It was refreshing to hear they hoped I would be around for a long time - just what I'm hoping for too!
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So you are saying your child has special needs, and could be disruptive with other children of her age, which needs to be handled with home schooling?
Doesn't that put your child at risk, from learning and bonding with other children at her age, not to mention building up an immune system that children benefit from school, for example chicken pox?
Sounds like a disaster in the making to me, unless she is mentally challenged in some way.
That's how I read it anyway.
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Not every school system out there is "good" for the development of a child. There are many parts of this country where not nearly enough tax dollars go into funding of education. Whether it results it horifically poor teachers, poor/no textbooks, etc. etc., in some cases going to a public school can be worse than any lack of social interaction perceived from home-schooling. I was a bit puzzled as to the social aspect that may be missing, but from what was said in the initial reply there is plenty of interaction taking place so that is not a problem.
There are a LOT of home-schooled children in this country and it is typically not a problem when the parents are intelligent enough to realize that their child/children need interaction of a social kind. RTS seems to have that taken care of.
shmokes:
I generally think that homeschooling is a terrible terrible awful idea. As you can see, it's usually twice as terrible as it is awful. I don't think there's anything really fundamentally wrong with it -- just that in practice the vast majority of people can not, or simply do not do it properly. Kids need to be learning in a highly structured environment, IMO, all day long. Most people, however, squeeze in laundry, dishes, dinner, grocery shopping, vacuuming, Oprah, Reader's Digest (blech!), etc., along with the home schooling of their kids.
Another problem is the fact that the vast majority of homeschoolers have no qualifications, neither in the subjects they're meant to be teaching, nor are they trained in educational techniques (though, with a certified teacher in the house, this is probably not a problem for RTSdaddy. It's like they figure, "Meh, how hard can it be? I'll just wing it." There may be some truth to that, since the deficiency in effectiveness is probably made up for to a large extent by having a personal tutor, as opposed to one teacher who's time is split between thirty kids. Still, I think this is a common source of problems when it comes to home schooling. Before long, though, the lack of qualification will catch up. Very few adults know how to do algebra, or even pre-algebra. Very very few know the first thing about biology or even, sadly, civics, social studies, geography, or history. By the time kids are into junior high school, they are learning things that their parents have completely forgotten (if they ever knew the stuff).
Some other potential issues revolve around lessons that cannot be taught at home, e.g., how to play and succeed at team sports, how to deal with bullies, how to sing in a chorus, etc.. And recess . . . my god, how are you going to play Red Rover at home?
With all that said, I certainly think that it's possible to homeschool well, and do a far superior job than even the finest private schools. I just think that most parents are not capable of this, and most that are capable of it end up lacking the discipline and self-sacrifice to really do it right.
Ginsu Victim:
Not all homeschooling is bad, but the majority use it as a sheltering / brain-washing method.
A lot of homeschooled individuals have no concept of the world around them. They put themselves into dangerous situations without knowing it. They let the wrong people into their homes, roll down their windows for anyone who approaches their cars....
One thing public school gives you is the ability to understand (and deal with) all types of people, like it or not.
As for this:
--- Quote ---Finally, my wife had bad experiences in her public school life
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And she's better off having gone through it. No one had a great experience in public school, but we're all stronger, smarter individuals at the end of the day because of it.
Teknique:
Grats RTS- glad you found a job and good luck with it!
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