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myntik1:
Here's the difference for me. When I was a kid one day me and a couple of kids started throwing snowballs at cars on a busy street. Pops caught wind of it and I got a couple of smacks on the backside.  I can only remember a few occassions when hands were placed against my rump, and the ones I recall all had something to do with me doing something I shouldn't have done EVER.  I was never hit because my dad was mad at his boss, or I interrupted a game, etc.  And the fear of getting one coupled with the disappointment ny parents would have if i got busted doing something stupid kept me in line.  To me one is discipline (tough love to a small degree) and the other is abuse.  Now that I'm a father I hope I never have to spank my son.  I would hope that the fear of a spanking is enough to keep him in line until he firmly knows what's right and wrong.

AtomSmasher:

--- Quote from: shardian on April 09, 2008, 09:55:52 am --- If you crack out the belt once every blue moon or so, you are disciplining your kid...but it doesn't really accomplish anything.

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I don't entirely agree because even though I was only spanked once in a blue moon, my parents used the threat of spanking to get me to quickly start behaving if I was acting up.  My dad called the belt the "hearing aid" because it helped us listen   :)

Something kind of funny, a few years ago I found an old school journal from probably around the first grade.  Each entry I was supposed to draw a picture, then write a sentence about it.  Most of the entries were standard kid stuff, I like my cat, I like to go hiking, etc. but one of the entries was I don't like to be spanked, and the picture was my dad as a big monster rearing up with a belt yelling "arg!" and me cowering in the corner saying "help me."  The kind of thing child services would be all over if it was done today.  Just to be clear, I only remember being spaking 3 or 4 times, but obviously this picture was drawn after one of those times.

ChadTower:

My little brother did that in kindergarten.  Drew in class a picture of my mother with a large object in her hand and us running away from her.  The school did call her in - because he was covered with marks from an object just like the one he drew.  That was in the late 80s so schools have been doing that for a couple of decades now.

AtomSmasher:

--- Quote from: ChadTower on April 09, 2008, 11:32:20 am ---
My little brother did that in kindergarten.  Drew in class a picture of my mother with a large object in her hand and us running away from her.  The school did call her in - because he was covered with marks from an object just like the one he drew.  That was in the late 80s so schools have been doing that for a couple of decades now.

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I was born in 1980, so it was mid to late eighties for me as well.

myntik1:


A belt shouldn't be the only form of discipline, but it should be in the tool box.  I honestly believe some of the crazy crimes and stunts people do today could have been prevented with some real discipline.  For years I taught at an alternative school for kids with "emotional and behavior" problems.  My heart went out to the kids with real issues that had to be resolved.  But a majority of those kids had a problem because mom or dad enabled them.  When I got punished as a kid is was straight lockdown.  The Atari, the handheld colecos, and the comic books were snatched up.  I had no tv in my room.  It was me, a bed, 4 walls and a ton of books.  Now parents are too scared to discipline their kids, and punishment is a joke because even my 7 yr old niece has a tv, dvd player and cell phone.  I had my orthopedic surgeon's son as a student years ago. One day he told me that he called social services on his dad because he took his quad away.  He knew his dad wasn't going to get in trouble he just wanted him to lose face in the community by having dss talk to his neighbors.  So if you have an unruly kid nowadays you medicate them.  Some doctor somewhere will diagnose them with ODD or ADHD.  Before I put anything besides Flintstone vitamins in my kid I'm going to see if a few swats on the backside might encourage him to behave. I am not promoting beatings or cruel or unusual punishment, but we're seeing what a generation of kids raised on timeouts is capable of doing.

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